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pixeeperfect

An Inquiry as to why I am hurt...I THINK...?

Feb 03, 2005 19:18

I have great plans for my future...stewing, and I question them as to how exactly they will unfold,..or if they will at all ( Read more... )

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honey24101 February 4 2005, 21:59:50 UTC

awww, dude. i'm sorry to hear about michael, but maybe you shouldn't be so preoccupied with the future right now. he probably feels the same way too. did he explain why he didnt want to? its probably cause he might have so much on his plate right now and thats where all of his focus is, not on the future. he's in this comfortable little niche with you, where you both can settle in and progress slllowwlly into the future and he doesn't want things to change. its understandable. i don't think he forsees problems with you in the future (and don't be so harsh on yourself! that was all in the past...and knowing you, you'd fight against growing up like the women in your family, you're so much better than that)

anyway, you said you didn't wanna get married either, so why should he want to? that's insane! you've got a few more years at school.. you guys should be riding on cruise control by now! shit, do you know how lucky you guys are to have found one another??

honey24101 February 4 2005, 23:50:29 UTC

and yes, seperate your finances! it's the smart thing to do! even my parents have seperate accounts.

pixeeperfect February 13 2005, 04:58:09 UTC

But mainly, we're thinking of studying abroad...and starting a savings account to do so...that seems like something (not all our finances)that should be combined to me...I mean the more money you have, the more you earn...that's all I meant by "separate my finances" for right now.

honey24101 February 13 2005, 05:08:00 UTC

where to abroad..? and i think you're right. sounds practical to me!

anonymous February 8 2005, 12:23:57 UTC

I think you're thinking too far ahead. I always thought about marriage as something to think about when I've landed that career job.. and until then, landing the career job would be the primary goal.

Maybe Michael has something to accomplish first, too. What is his primary goal for the future, and after he achieves it, will the resulting quality of living make marriage more likely?

-Adam