Comments | pixie_lily: well, well, well...

pixie_lily

well, well, well...

Mar 21, 2005 17:35

my daughter took me off her friends list. i'm not sure when she did this, probably after i commented on her not going to work again yesterday. it pisses her off that i worry. it pisses her off that i voice my concerns...

and what do i have to be concerned about, anyway, besides the fact(s) that:

she misses work on a regular basis,
then lies about ( Read more... )

Comments 17

if_ever_i_speak March 22 2005, 02:43:10 UTC

I took you off my friends list because yes, I get tired of all the comments. When we hang out I get sick of one hundred questions. We can never just hang out without you making a snide remark and me going home feeling like shit. I am defensive around you because of this. We don't hang out anymore because our schedules are different. You do things with Shawlene on the weekends...the only time you call me is when you two aren't doing things together. We drifted apart a long long time ago. I don't feel comfortable talking to you because you seem to always focus on the negatives. My feelings are hurt too.

pixie_lily March 22 2005, 22:57:39 UTC

"I took you off my friends list because yes, I get tired of all the comments. When we hang out I get sick of one hundred questions. We can never just hang out without you making a snide remark and me going home feeling like shit. I am defensive around you because of this. We don't hang out anymore because our schedules are different. You do things with Shawlene on the weekends...the only time you call me is when you two aren't doing things together. We drifted apart a long long time ago. I don't feel comfortable talking to you because you seem to always focus on the negatives. My feelings are hurt too ( ... )

nosmallbeer March 22 2005, 21:29:44 UTC

God, I wish my mother and I could have such an open exchange...99% I have no idea what she's thinking, so I've basically come to the conclusion that she's unaccessible and I've long since given up.

Hugs from a stranger to you both - there's enough pain in the world already.

pixie_lily March 22 2005, 23:03:47 UTC

one minute i feel like we're having an open exchange, and the next i'm not sure if she's even telling me the truth about what she feels. i know she blames me for everything (practically) that's wrong in her life. (OF COURSE it's my fault; i'm her MOTHER!)

eventually, people outgrow that, right?

nosmallbeer March 23 2005, 21:36:35 UTC

In my experience, it was around...25/26 (years of age) that I started to really step back and reasses my perspectives. In my case, that turned out to be the beginning of the end, since my mother is homophobic and my change of life happened to coincide with my father leaving her...so it's all wrapped up together in her heart and mind and she thinks my wife "stole" me away just like the "other woman" stole her husband (plus there are two of my siblings reinforcing her, so...gah). Sad but true ( ... )