The Moment You've All Been Waiting For (well, that I've been waiting for anyway)
I suppose I've kept the suspense going long enough, it is time for "the story."
On April 24th of this year I received an email on OKCupid. As is often the case when I receive OKCupid emails, I looked at the profile before I actually read the email. Hmm, cute and interesting, bonus :) Lives in Denmark, 3750 miles away. Uh, ok, cute and interesting but completely inaccessible, why is this person writing to me? Then I read the email and was somehow intrigued. It wasn't a particularly significant email, but a spark was ignited nonetheless. I decided to write back. Each subsequent email generated longer and longer responses faster and faster, and within about 4 days time we pretty much knew eachother's entire life stories.
I being the slightly jaded girl that I am wanted to keep my options open, but I had to admit to myself that I was falling in love. Each new day revealed a new characteristic from my list of perfect man qualities: intelligent, artistic, loves music, technically savvy, cute, sweet, articulate, loving, emotionally stable, and most importantly completely enamored of me and not afraid of it in the least. The only piece missing of course was to meet in person and see if the images we had both built up in our minds materialized in reality. When chatting about music festivals one day I had an idea. I was already planning my trip to Bonnaroo, had the time off work and tickets were still available, why didn't he come to Bonnaroo with me? In my mind this was perfect, if we can get along throughout the entire Bonnaroo experience, we can make it through just about anything. 14 hour road trip, sleeping in close quarters in a tent, deciding what music to see and what music to blow off, what a great way to get to know someone. And so he bought his tickets and the plan was set, all that was left to do was wait.
I passed the time waiting by preparing for his arrival. I needed to clean house -- literally and figuratively. I had a feeling that my entire life would change once he arrived, so I made preparations for such an event. I washed my dishes (well, most of them ;) ), vacuumed and mopped my floors, scrubbed my tub and changed my sheets. I also cleared out my head, dealt with old emotions, tried to resolve any conflicts I had remaining in my head and in person. Any potential obstacle was either resolved or made insignificant. By about noon on June 12th, I felt ready for his arrival, and around 15:00 that same day, he finally arrived :)
As the week went by, the love we had developed over the previous weeks of chatting and email quickly grew deeper and stronger. It didn't feel like we had only just met, it felt like we had known eachother for years. There never really was any of that new relationship awkwardness, it was like we had been a couple forever, everything just fit. I've spent the last 31 years figuring out what it is I want in life. I've had lots of relationships that didn't work for one reason or another, met lots of people who weren't exactly what I wanted and wasted lots of time and energy worrying about it. I assumed that my ideal man couldn't possibly exist so I'd better make do with whatever came my way. At some point I finally stopped worrying and decided to start enjoying my life, and of course that is when he appeared. Some people may think it's completely insane, but I assure you when you've been through as much as I have in life and you finally find what you've been seeking, you know right away.
Since he is exactly what I've been waiting for all these years, naturally he is of the same mind as I, and so yesterday he asked me to marry him and I said "of course." When you are presented with exactly the thing you have been seeking, why should you wait? There are no questions in either of our minds that time or experience would change, so why not get started on the rest of our lives now? I think 31 years is enough waiting, and thankfully so does he :)
So that is my story. Well, the beginning of it anyway, the rest is yet to unfold and I am terribly excited about that :) If you would like more details, most of you know how to get a hold of me, and if not feel free to comment and I will respond :)
In the meantime, pictures to satisfy your curiosity ;)
And, one of my favorites:
On April 24th of this year I received an email on OKCupid. As is often the case when I receive OKCupid emails, I looked at the profile before I actually read the email. Hmm, cute and interesting, bonus :) Lives in Denmark, 3750 miles away. Uh, ok, cute and interesting but completely inaccessible, why is this person writing to me? Then I read the email and was somehow intrigued. It wasn't a particularly significant email, but a spark was ignited nonetheless. I decided to write back. Each subsequent email generated longer and longer responses faster and faster, and within about 4 days time we pretty much knew eachother's entire life stories.
I being the slightly jaded girl that I am wanted to keep my options open, but I had to admit to myself that I was falling in love. Each new day revealed a new characteristic from my list of perfect man qualities: intelligent, artistic, loves music, technically savvy, cute, sweet, articulate, loving, emotionally stable, and most importantly completely enamored of me and not afraid of it in the least. The only piece missing of course was to meet in person and see if the images we had both built up in our minds materialized in reality. When chatting about music festivals one day I had an idea. I was already planning my trip to Bonnaroo, had the time off work and tickets were still available, why didn't he come to Bonnaroo with me? In my mind this was perfect, if we can get along throughout the entire Bonnaroo experience, we can make it through just about anything. 14 hour road trip, sleeping in close quarters in a tent, deciding what music to see and what music to blow off, what a great way to get to know someone. And so he bought his tickets and the plan was set, all that was left to do was wait.
I passed the time waiting by preparing for his arrival. I needed to clean house -- literally and figuratively. I had a feeling that my entire life would change once he arrived, so I made preparations for such an event. I washed my dishes (well, most of them ;) ), vacuumed and mopped my floors, scrubbed my tub and changed my sheets. I also cleared out my head, dealt with old emotions, tried to resolve any conflicts I had remaining in my head and in person. Any potential obstacle was either resolved or made insignificant. By about noon on June 12th, I felt ready for his arrival, and around 15:00 that same day, he finally arrived :)
As the week went by, the love we had developed over the previous weeks of chatting and email quickly grew deeper and stronger. It didn't feel like we had only just met, it felt like we had known eachother for years. There never really was any of that new relationship awkwardness, it was like we had been a couple forever, everything just fit. I've spent the last 31 years figuring out what it is I want in life. I've had lots of relationships that didn't work for one reason or another, met lots of people who weren't exactly what I wanted and wasted lots of time and energy worrying about it. I assumed that my ideal man couldn't possibly exist so I'd better make do with whatever came my way. At some point I finally stopped worrying and decided to start enjoying my life, and of course that is when he appeared. Some people may think it's completely insane, but I assure you when you've been through as much as I have in life and you finally find what you've been seeking, you know right away.
Since he is exactly what I've been waiting for all these years, naturally he is of the same mind as I, and so yesterday he asked me to marry him and I said "of course." When you are presented with exactly the thing you have been seeking, why should you wait? There are no questions in either of our minds that time or experience would change, so why not get started on the rest of our lives now? I think 31 years is enough waiting, and thankfully so does he :)
So that is my story. Well, the beginning of it anyway, the rest is yet to unfold and I am terribly excited about that :) If you would like more details, most of you know how to get a hold of me, and if not feel free to comment and I will respond :)
In the meantime, pictures to satisfy your curiosity ;)
And, one of my favorites: