In all honesty I'm not sure what to say, but if you ever need an optimistic person then you've got tons of optimism coming to you from me :) I think you're best bet would be focusing on the finding a room mate. The place does sound good, and like you said, you wouldn't be living in some shitty person's closet. Don't give up, you're a strong lvl 50 weedle that's using struggle bug at the moment. Sure these obstacles are really bothersome, but once everything comes together you can say," That's right! I did it!".
*hugs* =( I'm sure it'll all work out sweetie - if needs be, finding somewhere to live will probably be easier once you're back in the US. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with it all though. I hope things start going better for you! <3
A lot of people who list their properties as ladies only just don't want frat boys coming in there, partying at all hours and making beer can pyramids. If you have any references, personal or otherwise, and write a good letter, you could easily sway them to let you have a look through, I think!
When I was in CA, there were a LOT of rental rooms from cool liberals/hippies with houses. It's just possible you're not seeing that type of thing on whatever site you're looking at. Sometimes you need a physical paper with ads in it, or to be cruising a lot of those couch-surf/room-mate type websites.
Alternatively, if the school has a BBS/forum or some other form of general communication, or if you can ask someone on staff to let people know you're looking ahead of time, that is also an option. :)
I think what the others above have said is true, as in finding an apartment while in the states might be easier, though I know it may seem a little tight.
I think still applying to the girls only with a ref might be a great idea too. I can completely see where the ladies are coming from but I think if you show you're really down to earth, cool guy, they may reconsider.
Also, have you checked out padmapper.com? I recommend it to anyone looking for an apartment because it gets listings from every apartment renting site and puts it all on a map for you. You can get specs and find some cheaper/better apartments that way.
And again, you can always look for a roommate. If other guys are finding it hard to find a place to live due to the ladies/or full time out of home only, you might have a good chance at finding someone quick.
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I think you're best bet would be focusing on the finding a room mate. The place does sound good, and like you said, you wouldn't be living in some shitty person's closet. Don't give up, you're a strong lvl 50 weedle that's using struggle bug at the moment. Sure these obstacles are really bothersome, but once everything comes together you can say," That's right! I did it!".
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When I was in CA, there were a LOT of rental rooms from cool liberals/hippies with houses. It's just possible you're not seeing that type of thing on whatever site you're looking at. Sometimes you need a physical paper with ads in it, or to be cruising a lot of those couch-surf/room-mate type websites.
Alternatively, if the school has a BBS/forum or some other form of general communication, or if you can ask someone on staff to let people know you're looking ahead of time, that is also an option. :)
Good luck anyway! I think you'll be fine.
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I think what the others above have said is true, as in finding an apartment while in the states might be easier, though I know it may seem a little tight.
I think still applying to the girls only with a ref might be a great idea too. I can completely see where the ladies are coming from but I think if you show you're really down to earth, cool guy, they may reconsider.
Also, have you checked out padmapper.com? I recommend it to anyone looking for an apartment because it gets listings from every apartment renting site and puts it all on a map for you. You can get specs and find some cheaper/better apartments that way.
And again, you can always look for a roommate. If other guys are finding it hard to find a place to live due to the ladies/or full time out of home only, you might have a good chance at finding someone quick.
Good luck!
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