I've had a number of people who have said, "Hey, give me a call and let's do this!" or "I'll take care of this for you in the next day or two," or things along those lines
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What I've found is that some people are good at estimating their activity, and (hello, Tautology Man!) some are not.
I generally give up with those who are not. To me, that's the easy part. The hard part is not taking it personally. :) As in, I think it's okay to think "this person is unreliable in such-and-such ways" without also adding "and as a result, they are a bad, bad person".
The flip side is, I appreciate people who say, "Wow, dinner sounds fun! But not... for two months. Write me then?" In fact, today I had a calendar entry to ping such a friend. :)
So yeah, my answer is "disengagement sans bitterness". Definitely a work in progress.
People can be flaky, and it's rarely anything personal. We all have random crap that comes up. However, there's no harm in being honest about it (especially with a close friend) and saying, "I feel like I'm getting blown off when you continue making plans and not following up on them." That would be my approach, at least.
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I generally give up with those who are not. To me, that's the easy part. The hard part is not taking it personally. :) As in, I think it's okay to think "this person is unreliable in such-and-such ways" without also adding "and as a result, they are a bad, bad person".
The flip side is, I appreciate people who say, "Wow, dinner sounds fun! But not... for two months. Write me then?" In fact, today I had a calendar entry to ping such a friend. :)
So yeah, my answer is "disengagement sans bitterness". Definitely a work in progress.
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at any rate, it's good to see you posting again! :)
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