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[plumerai]

What are some signs you’ve personally seen that flagged that a person is prone to cheating? Either someone you/a friend has been interested in, or someone you/a friend has dated?

(No, this isn’t personal; it’s for work but I thought there might be some interesting stories and insight from the internets...)

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[arksnay]

Making an effort not to let you know their normal schedule so you don't know when they're doing something shady.

Talking all the time about spending time with they're obviously keeping you from meeting.

There have to be more...

[risala]

The only time I've really been exposed to this is with best friend who's husband cheated on her.

Here were the indicators:

Several people at his place of employment kept mentioning (all hush-hush like) that he was sleeping with this girl that worked for him.

He didn't come home at night, twice in one month.

He kept "falling asleep on the couch" and never managing to come to bed.

He was generally an asshole, never wanted to help bestfriend with the baby, the housework, the bill-paying, etc.

He went on a skiing trip with his friends, including several girls, one of which was the one that his employees were always talking about, mentioned in the first indicator, AND PAID FOR THE GIRL TO GO.

Became just generally indignant about any question she asked him, such as "are you still going with me to my parents party this weekend?" or "what do you want for dinner tonight?"

There were lots more but they were very situational and might not be worth getting into. It was pretty obvious, really.

[editrix26]

I'd agree with a lot of that. She wanted to spend all of the money on clothes, getting her hair and makeup done every weekend before she went to a concert without him, indulgent stuff, and never helped with bills.

The catalyst for their breakup was he finally asked her not to go out one weeknight when she was sick, and she replied by saying she wanted a divorce.

Of course, it turned out she was fucking one of her new friends and had been unfaithful previously, but she told everyone in our group of friends that she was just unhappy and felt pressured into getting married, and had this ridiculous sob speech about her unhappiness.

[sixcylinders]

This sounds just like an acquaintance of mine who's currently engaged and, from the way the gossip mill has been spinning, is cheating on her fiance. I think the going out consistently and constantly without your SO is a pretty good indication.

[walkingbytch]

see this is a problem. Because when you have a SO and alot of memeber of your group do not, It also becomes a huge drag to always have him / her with you.

Not talking from personal experience or anything but it would not be incorrect to assume that my husband thinks he might actually have a vagina at some points, instead of simply being married to one.

[editrix26]

When our best friend's marriage flamed out, it was after a six-month period when his wife suddenly developed new interests, started staying out late (like 2 a.m. or later) four or five nights a week and suddenly had a bunch of new friends that she met at concerts or bars or whatever.

[kesil]

thievery of dairy products is a gateway crime.

[walkingbytch]

lmao. coffee out the nose for the win.

I'll never look at yoplait the same way again.

[sixcylinders]

From what I've noticed with my male friends, if they're putting some ex/woman from their past up on a pedestal as their "true love", they tend to treat anyone else they get involved with pretty cavalierly, often to the point of cheating on them with other girls who they ALSO don't seem to care about.

Man, even as a detached observer that sort of behavior ticks me off.