Your worth as a person and as a friend has nothing to do with your skill as a musician.
I am glad you got to OVFF and had a good time. And yeah, do remember that fandom has a larger than average number of people who aren't well-socialized. Sometimes it's because they have some level of autism, sometimes they're just plain introverts, sometimes it's just because they never learned "the rules" that most of society tends to go by, sometimes they're just different ... and yeah, there are a few outright jerks in the crowd as well. Don't let it get to you. Do remember that when you're dealing with the "differently socialized", trying to meet them at least halfway sometimes helps.
Thanks, bikergeek. As we often say in my men's group, "You spot it, you got it". And although I was never diagnosed with Asperger's or other autism-spectrum disorder, I'd bet money that I have one.
When I think back on some of how I acted as a very small child, I would have to guess that a child today who did some of those same things would at least be screened for autism.
They didn't do a great job of screening kids for this kind of thing when you and I were kids. :-/ Oh well, science marches on, right?
It was good to see you at OVFF. One nature of the volunteering I am doing at OVFF is that I don't always have time to talk to everyone I want to catch and I do try to say hello (at least) when I see you at OVFF. This year, I do know we got to talk for more than 30 seconds at one point during the weekend.
As for performing on Starlight and Saxophone. You did great. Keep playing your instruments for your enjoyment. A side benefit is that we get to hear you performing (and share in your joy of playing) when your turn comes up in circle. Plus by playing something other than the standard string instruments, you add a different flavor to a filk circle. It is needed. My local filk community tends towards soloists and guitarists (or other string instruments.) We do have a woodwind performer that does occasionally show up and I enjoy having something different taking a turn in the circle. It adds to the circle in a good way.
It was good to see you! I arrived late, because I had a college reunion the same weekend. So I unfortunately missed your performance in the Pegasus concert.
And there were so many friends and so little time. I had a conversation that was long enough to be satisfying with only one person (Kanef). Glad we connected, albeit briefly.
Your items #3 and #4 apply to me to an extent. I don't know if I could recognize you from a distance.
It was good to see you! I'm glad I got to chat with you a bit on Friday, even if I spent a lot of ovff running around (and/or having a migraine, which is never a great thing.) I hope to see you at ovff again! Or even better, at a con I'm not on the committee for. :)
I'm really glad you had a good experience at OVFF, and I'm sorry I didn't have much time to talk. I constantly felt like I needed a clone of myself to be everywhere I would have liked to be! (As filkcons go, OVFF is probably the worst for that.)
I fall into the introverted (with mild social anxiety) camp. I definitely would have had a much harder time coming into the community if not for coming attached to my extroverted and already well-known husband. ;)
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I am glad you got to OVFF and had a good time. And yeah, do remember that fandom has a larger than average number of people who aren't well-socialized. Sometimes it's because they have some level of autism, sometimes they're just plain introverts, sometimes it's just because they never learned "the rules" that most of society tends to go by, sometimes they're just different ... and yeah, there are a few outright jerks in the crowd as well. Don't let it get to you. Do remember that when you're dealing with the "differently socialized", trying to meet them at least halfway sometimes helps.
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They didn't do a great job of screening kids for this kind of thing when you and I were kids. :-/ Oh well, science marches on, right?
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As for performing on Starlight and Saxophone. You did great. Keep playing your instruments for your enjoyment. A side benefit is that we get to hear you performing (and share in your joy of playing) when your turn comes up in circle. Plus by playing something other than the standard string instruments, you add a different flavor to a filk circle. It is needed. My local filk community tends towards soloists and guitarists (or other string instruments.) We do have a woodwind performer that does occasionally show up and I enjoy having something different taking a turn in the circle. It adds to the circle in a good way.
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And there were so many friends and so little time. I had a conversation that was long enough to be satisfying with only one person (Kanef). Glad we connected, albeit briefly.
Your items #3 and #4 apply to me to an extent. I don't know if I could recognize you from a distance.
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I fall into the introverted (with mild social anxiety) camp. I definitely would have had a much harder time coming into the community if not for coming attached to my extroverted and already well-known husband. ;)
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