So there's this thing happening in NEAN, basically a sexual violence survivor's caucus, and they are coming up with a specific, written policy on how to deal with violence/assault in our community. There is a list of perpetrators who are going to be called out on their shit, and with your permission, we would like to put Scott on that list. Your thoughts on this matter?
that's cool you're doing that- I don't know if I really want that right now since I don't know what the process would look like. I'd like to talk about it over email, but again, I'm not looking for a shitstorm, just a bit of personal healing.
to be redundant, yeah, i definitely don't want that, though i appreciate your efforts and all, just in my experiences with this shit in my own life and other peoples' processes, i don't want an institutionalized process. i just want people who are friends to talk to eachother and not pretend this shit doesn't happen, and not pretend that our friends can't be perps. everyone is, i've done fucked up shit, and the best way i've gotten through it and over it and grown was just by talking to people directly, not being on a list of assholes. not to say there shouldn't be one, just, yeah, not for me right now.
It takes fucking guts to do what you did and I say that as a mutual friend. I haven't really talked to him since I moved outside of a "hey I'm your key grip on this film, we're doing budgeting, just saying hi." and it wicked bums me out that he did something to hurt you. I don't know the situation beyond the little you told me before I left and this past lj entry, but you should never ever ever feel like you cannot talk about these things no matter who it was and how many friends he has and how much social drama it could cost.
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