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Great Girl Looking For SINGLE Boy

Nov 23, 2004 11:05

I have to put this down here since this is yet again a feminist issue. Or maybe it's just a girl thing. ;) An acquaintance of mine is "dating" (well shagging but wanting to date) a guy who is engaged. This is following her dating a married man for a year or so. It just bugs me so much. Not so much the adultary, although I'm not a big fan. It ( Read more... )

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not strong enough powerpuffwomen November 23 2004, 17:06:48 UTC

You're my hero Buttercup, never change.

Bubbles is not roaring today. I think my bubble burst.

You know the quote from Hamlet, "the lady doth protest too much, methinks?" They bothered me so much because they were right. But not necessarily in the sense that I stayed home to be with my babies, in that I wasted my life and my potential, and I can never have that back. Unless I abandon ship, which, imho and others who care about me, is truly being selfish and lazy. So I can't win. I'm losing sight of everything again.

Mood: very sad.

Dearie... powerpuffwomen November 23 2004, 19:36:20 UTC

You're still young to do plenty of things with your life. Way too young to posture as if you've wasted with your life (besides the fact that you have done plenty that proves exactly the opposite). You got a university education, you've worked in your field, you had babies,... You made choices that made sense in the context of who you were as a 20-something. You can still evolve and grow within the context of your current career and your kids. You can steer your career towards something else. The kids will soon all be at school full-time. That will give you more possibility in terms of available time to do other projects near and dear to your heart. Never despair.

the great debate powerpuffwomen November 23 2004, 19:54:35 UTC

Ah, Buttercup. Blossom knows how your friend feels. She thinks she can shag this boy because it's not hurting HER relationship, and she feels that as soon as "something better comes along" she can drop said boy and start anew.

Unfortunately she's only going to learn the hard way. She knows she deserves better but she feels that the little she's getting now is better than nothing, which is what she would be getting if she broke things off.

Chin up. You are a loving, kind, supportive friend... and that's all you can do for her right now. (You'll get to pick up the pieces of her shattered heart later, but for now you're doing just fine.)

current mood: swinging
current music: CHRISTMAS! (my own mix)

Re: the great debate powerpuffwomen November 23 2004, 20:14:36 UTC

The sad thing is that it took forever to break it off with the married man that came before. She kept saying it was broken off but then, she talked to him all the time, and was still sleeping with him! She said it was so hard to cut it off. But she is doing it again! I'm sad she hasn't learned from her mistakes...

current mood: tired & frustrated with my life
current music: Jem

Bubbles asks... powerpuffwomen November 28 2004, 01:37:12 UTC

What constitutes infidelity?

Is an emotional attachment to someone other than your mate a betrayal? I don't doubt that wanting to spend more time with another person than you do your S.O. is not healthy for your relationship, but is it infidelity- if no sex is involved?

What about an infatuation with someone on television, or the movies? What if a person "pleasures" himself/herself to images or movies? Is that infidelity?

Discuss.

Buttercup says... powerpuffwomen November 28 2004, 06:01:23 UTC

I think everyone must define it for his/her couple. I mean, for some, having sex with someone else is meaningless. For me, it is most certainly infidelity. At the same time, sharing intimacy with another is also a feature that many identify as being the core of infidelity. If we share intimacy with our girlfriends, are we cheating on our husbands? What if our best friend happen to be someone of the opposite sex? I don't think that is really infidelity.

I guess sexual intimacy with someone else is probably what most people mean by infidelity. Sharing with the other person one's fantasies, and wanting that person to fulfill them. Something about craving the other person's presence would probably be included since there is something very carnal in nature. Infidelity also has this dimension of recurrence in behaviour despite knowing it will hurt the partner. I think I need to think about it some more...