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In order to not start something in someone else's journal, I am starting a new post in mine.
Heather said:
Did I? I don't remember doing that, but it's entirely possible. The good thing about me is that I am incapable of staying angry at someone through a night's sleep. In high school, I left myself notes next to my alarm clock to remind myself who I was mad at and why. Never worked. So the most anger you'll get out of me is, oh, 18 hours...
Heather also said:
H: You should find joy in your friends and family instead of material objects.
M: But people suck.
H: Maybe they wouldn't suck so much if you were nice to them more often.
M: Why should I change how I act when I'm perfectly content to find joy in material objects?
H: Good point.
For me there seems to be a conflict in these two quotes. I don't normally call people out on things nor am I confrontational at all. However, sometimes I think people are unaware of some of their own internal feelings. Also, I have finally just lost patience. I am honestly amazed no one has done something like this before in a much less tactful way. Of course at the end of this you may not think it tactful, but I don't intend to be mean.
Heather, while you may not be "angry" you are definitely harboring some kind of aggression, that I for one would like you to get past. At least to the point that you do not bring it to other people's journals. I am frankly tired of seeing digs at Mike all over the place. While I admit to a natural curiousity about my friends and their lives, I try and respect the boundaries they have established. Sometimes I fail at this and maybe ask too personal of a question, but I try. You are constantly crossing those boundaries without Mike's consent. If he at one time crossed boundaries for you as well, I think you have more than gotten back at him for that now.
Anyway, I am finally just tired of having to watch these kind of comments from you. Very often I have wanted to ask you what your point was.
Let's examine your internal conversation from above.
I think we all know that Mike doesn't like "people", however, that doesn't mean he doesn't find joy in his friends and loved ones happiness. On the contrary, my experience with Mike proves the opposite is true. I felt that he was truly happy for Susan when she graduated college and in fact not only celebrated it for her, but was himself made happier in the news that life would probably be better for us in the future. This is only 1 example among many where I feel this has been proven true. I believe your internal bitterness is clouding your judgment and memories. What prompts you to make such a post? What are you trying to prove? That Mike is some kind of ... what? bastard for hurting your feelings? Insensitive Boob? Frankly, I think Mike tends to somewhat revel in his bastardliness since it isn't really that bad. Much like Susan pretending she is a bitch, or liking to be called that. It isn't actually true, just a fun facade. Sorry you two for ruining the myth.
Also, I am all about positive self-talk. I am horrible at it myself and am trying to get better. My self-esteem is in the toilet. However, if you were to ask most people, I would harbor a guess they would think mine was higher than yours simply because you seem to feel the need to tell all of us how great you are all the time. It comes to the point of wanting to say "she doth protest too much"
You have posted in the past, that you will post whatever you want in your own journal. More power to ya, if it gets excessive, I don't have to read it. However, please keep your issues with Mike out of other people's journals, I at least for one don't want to see it anymore.
Heather said:
Did I? I don't remember doing that, but it's entirely possible. The good thing about me is that I am incapable of staying angry at someone through a night's sleep. In high school, I left myself notes next to my alarm clock to remind myself who I was mad at and why. Never worked. So the most anger you'll get out of me is, oh, 18 hours...
Heather also said:
H: You should find joy in your friends and family instead of material objects.
M: But people suck.
H: Maybe they wouldn't suck so much if you were nice to them more often.
M: Why should I change how I act when I'm perfectly content to find joy in material objects?
H: Good point.
For me there seems to be a conflict in these two quotes. I don't normally call people out on things nor am I confrontational at all. However, sometimes I think people are unaware of some of their own internal feelings. Also, I have finally just lost patience. I am honestly amazed no one has done something like this before in a much less tactful way. Of course at the end of this you may not think it tactful, but I don't intend to be mean.
Heather, while you may not be "angry" you are definitely harboring some kind of aggression, that I for one would like you to get past. At least to the point that you do not bring it to other people's journals. I am frankly tired of seeing digs at Mike all over the place. While I admit to a natural curiousity about my friends and their lives, I try and respect the boundaries they have established. Sometimes I fail at this and maybe ask too personal of a question, but I try. You are constantly crossing those boundaries without Mike's consent. If he at one time crossed boundaries for you as well, I think you have more than gotten back at him for that now.
Anyway, I am finally just tired of having to watch these kind of comments from you. Very often I have wanted to ask you what your point was.
Let's examine your internal conversation from above.
I think we all know that Mike doesn't like "people", however, that doesn't mean he doesn't find joy in his friends and loved ones happiness. On the contrary, my experience with Mike proves the opposite is true. I felt that he was truly happy for Susan when she graduated college and in fact not only celebrated it for her, but was himself made happier in the news that life would probably be better for us in the future. This is only 1 example among many where I feel this has been proven true. I believe your internal bitterness is clouding your judgment and memories. What prompts you to make such a post? What are you trying to prove? That Mike is some kind of ... what? bastard for hurting your feelings? Insensitive Boob? Frankly, I think Mike tends to somewhat revel in his bastardliness since it isn't really that bad. Much like Susan pretending she is a bitch, or liking to be called that. It isn't actually true, just a fun facade. Sorry you two for ruining the myth.
Also, I am all about positive self-talk. I am horrible at it myself and am trying to get better. My self-esteem is in the toilet. However, if you were to ask most people, I would harbor a guess they would think mine was higher than yours simply because you seem to feel the need to tell all of us how great you are all the time. It comes to the point of wanting to say "she doth protest too much"
You have posted in the past, that you will post whatever you want in your own journal. More power to ya, if it gets excessive, I don't have to read it. However, please keep your issues with Mike out of other people's journals, I at least for one don't want to see it anymore.