Random Rant

[praisegurl86]

So many of the married couples Brendon and I know are having a hard time. It's this constant on-again/off-again cycle...just like dating only they're married.  I didn't think marriage was like this. You don't get upset and suddenly decide you're getting divorced. Why is it so hard to get along with the person you love more than anyone else? How can

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[blindaurora]

Satan just loves this stuff, I think. It seems to me (the most un-married chica evar) that sometimes marriage can be a crucible that makes folks feel "trapped." Couples without some good boundaries and communication skills are headed for trouble because even little imperfections and irritations (not to meantion bigger ones), if unresolved can build and build until they turn into big, ugly wounds and grudges. And then they get so out of control that people just feel like they must get out... NOW! Apparently this often happens between years 5 and 10. You and Brendon are two of my favorite peeps and I hope this continues to be a problem you DON'T understand. *hugs*

[praisegurl86]

Are there degrees of "un-marriedness"? :)

What you said makes sense, but I guess I'm kind of optimistic to a fault because I wish stuff like this could just never happen in the first place. Little things (in my opinion) don't have to become SO big.

Love you and miss you!

[mrb1980]

The easy answer: people are stupid. Q is right. People just don't communicate. However, there are situations in which the couple should never have gotten married in the first place and they don't realize this until it's too late. For instance, a member of my family got married to someone who was just bad all the way around. The spouse left my family member twice and hooked up with someone else. This whole situation was a complicated issue all the way around. Thankfully, they are getting a divorce. I'd rather not go into detail here, so maybe some other time. Bottom line: make sure the person you marry is the "RIGHT" person. I've said this for a long time: communication is the key to EVERY successful relationship.

[praisegurl86]

Thanks for the advice, but I'm pretty sure (as in 100% confident) that I married the "right" person. :)

I just wish other people could be that confident as well. I'm beginning to think divorce is the only way some of the couples I know could ever be happy.