Am I the only one that hates this?

[amycooper]

I'm in my first trimester of my second pregnancy and I have to say it: I hate pregnancy. I'm uncomfortable, I'm miserable, and in just a couple of months complete strangers will be appearing out of the woodwork to tell me what I can and can't do with my own body ("You're having juice?! *gasp!* You'll give the baby diabetes!"*) To make it worse, I

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[mothermelete]

Pregnancy is not my favorite time. I vomit for the first 4-5 months, then I'm sort of okay for about 2 weeks before the discomforts of the 3rd trimester kick in. Except by okay I mean I either have terrible insomnia or I sleep through alarms making myself late for work and such.
3rd trimester my hips and pelvis are on fire, and last time I didn't worry about it too much since I had nowhere to be, but this time I've got a lot to do, kind of like the first pregnancy, and I just don't have time to be in pain all the time.

[amycooper]

I miscarried my first and had Hyperemesis Gravidarum for the entire pregnancy with my son. I was going to the hospital for dehydration. Pain was fortunately fairly minimal for me. You have my sympathies!

This time around I keep waking up at all hours of the night. Ugh insomnia.

I just think some people minimize how uncomfortable you can be when pregnant either because they've never been pregnant or they had easy pregnancies.

[wordupyo]

Or they have the attitude of "that's just the way pregnancy is, so suck it up". :/

[mothermelete]

I miscarried my first pregnancy as well, and was sick as a dog up until they did the D&C because my body couldn't figure out what was going on.

I thankfully haven't been as sick with this one (being my 3rd viable pregnancy out of 6) but I also haven't been able to eat as well and haven't gained weight much. My midwife is lecturing me a lot about eating better, but I just can't force it in sometimes :(

[mariah00]

I've only been pregnant once and that may have been enough for me. I can think of two other babies who are my son's age whose parents are expecting again. Either they are more selfless than I am or pregnancy was NBD (as with you, probably more the former).
I didn't have a high-risk pregnancy by any means but it still really sucked and between that and nursing for 14 months, I was glad to finally get my body back after 2 years.

[amycooper]

There is nothing selfish about only having one. I occasional wonder if placing myself in a position where I'm unwell for several months is really fair to my husband and son. Fortunately I am not nearly as sick this time, just really uncomfortable.

[danithesquirrel]

On of the best things I can say about pregnancy: sometimes I forgot I was pregnant.

I did not find it particularly magical or overly horrible. It was an inconvenience that was worth going through for the end product.

[starrynight]

I enjoyed my pregnancy, but not the first trimester. I was soooo tired and felt terrible almost all of the time, but felt much better in the second. I also learned to ignore other people's opinions because honestly...what I do or don't do is my business. No one else's.

[amycooper]

I didn't take too many comments to heart. The one that still bugs me the most is the one about juice that I referred to in my post.

I had HG and couldn't even keep water down that day. I had been to the local immediate care center and they said to basically try anything and if I still wasn't keeping fluids down by the end of the daygo to the ER.

I returned to work (couldn't really afford not to at the time) and eventually found I could keep cranberry juice down. So I was sipping juice while manning the reference desk when an adjunct I barely knew literally screamed at me from across the library that I had to put the juice down because I was giving my baby diabetes.

Being at work and, as a librarian, having to cultivate a positive relationship with the faculty, I could tell her where to shove her advice.

Fun times.

[hungry_worm]

The comment about the juice is irritating because a) juice is what worked for you when other things (other than i.v. fluids) didn't and b) it's bullshit, medically speaking.

I really don't get why people think they must act like advocates for random (and often enough false!) things towards pregnant women. I didn't personally encounter it, but many people mention it.

[mi_er]

I enjoyed it but have girlfriends who most definately didn't. And by enjoy I have not forgotten all the discomforts I just....enjoyed growing a soul.

Two consolations:
The second one seems to go sooo much quicker
And
Second labours are not like firsts. With my first I laboured for almost 24h's. Second one popped out within 3.

[amycooper]

My labor wasn't nearly as diificult as my pregnancy, but less than 3 days would be grand. I'm preparing myself for two days but hoping it is much shorter.

That being said, I probably do run the risk of not taking labor seriously until it is too late. With Finn, early labor was actually more painful then active labor, strangely enough.

[mothermelete]

I feel you on the long labor. Mine was 2 full days. I'd be happy with 24 hours at this point.