Random Thoughts 1/20/11
1. I posted a pic of a bed with a pool around it on Tumblr last night and my Tumblr's Tumbelog is blown up with people Liking and Reblogging it D: I don't blame them, I think it's fucking awesome, but its like, Holy Shit, Whatthefuck!?
2. A gay couple in Miami, Florida have finally beaten the law and have successfully adopted 2 brothers. Florida has had a 3 Decade long ban on gay couples adopting children. But these 2 guys filed a lawsuit against the state and everyone mostly agreed with them, the state didn't appeal. I wish them the best with their 2 children :)
3. Goddamn! Apparently the FBI arrested 127 Mobsters.. Yes, 127 :O The fuck? was there a Costa Nostra meeting or something? that's a lot of fucking people for 1 day.
4. Oh for punk sake. Really? Out of any place in Wisconsin the President wants to visit Manitowoc? That is not what I meant by I wanted to see a celeb in Manitowoc -_- NTS: If he does come here, don't go anywhere that day, traffic will be a bitch.
5. Ugh, Wind Chill Advisory and 3 to 6 inches of snow expected for Manitowoc.
6. A Manitowoc guy gets arrested on battery... cause his wife stole his blanket... what i'm surrounded by folks *facepalm*
7. Another case in Manitowoc, a guy came home and tried strangling his wife... Jared? :O (I'm going to hell in a handbasket, I know)
8. Still sore from yesterday D:
9. "37 Dicks, My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks" "In a row?"
10. "Try not to suck anymore dicks on your way through the parking lot"
11. Eating Beefaroni out of a can *thumbs up*
12. I have been seeing a certain word floating around and getting a lot of usage lately: Maturity.
Now, before going on anymore into the rant about it, this is not a personal attack on anyone, just the word being used a lot in general. So before you think "This bitch is talking about me, isn't she?" No, this bitch is not.
I am sick of people saying that someone is not mature cause they don't agree with you. That is not immaturity, that's just differ in opinion. Having an opinion is way different than immaturity. Opinion: Saying what you think, whether you agree with the other person or not. Immaturity: Tell the other person they are constantly wrong and that you are right every time, constantly ramming your opinion down someones throat. See the differences there?
If someone agrees with you, that is not maturity, it's just agreeing in opinion. If you want someone to agree with you constantly, that is not a "Mature Friend" that is a robot, not a friend.
An example of Maturity is having an argument with someone and somewhere in there finding common ground or an understanding, not exact agreement about everything, but an eye to eye thing. or finding common ground and going your separate ways like adults.
Maturity is having the ability to calm your anger enough and settle differences with out resorting to violence and self destruction. Thinking about what is better in long term than what you can do to win the argument for a short time. If you're wrong, you can face the -if you have any- embarrassment of saying you were wrong and if you were right, don't get a big head and brag about it.
It also mean, keeping your word and being there for friends. Immature people break promises, they always have an excuse for everything and will end up friendless, disorganized, confused. They don't stick with things, therefor they end up doing nothing.
Think about it, when was the last time you said that someone was immature? probably in an argument with a person and you just randomly said they were immature for not agreeing with you? Exactly. People throw the Immaturity/Maturity word around a lot, most of the time when they say it, it's not the actual meanings they have in mind, but twisted meanings that fit to there frame of mind at the time.
It takes 2 (or more) people to be in a situation in which some dub as immature. being mature is taking as much fault as the other person. You are also in the situation, therefor, you said just as much stuff in the conversation.
Our natural reaction to a dispute is to go on the defensive, but you have to work past that if you want to get anywhere. I am not saying that you can't defend yourself or your friends/family/who ever else, you can, but im a calm enough manner so that you are not embarrassing yourself and making the other person look better. Of course you want to make back-handed comments and remarks and fight back with them, But sometimes the comments are so loosely said and sloppy, that you can easily avoid them all together by changing the subject and talking to someone else.
I know ignoring the person is the best option, but if its just a back handed remark then that's pretty avoidable instead of just stirring the pot so an argument does commence.
Do not think about what you don't want to do when put in a situation, but of what you can do to better it and such. You're aware of what you are doing and saying and will know at least some sort of guideline of the reaction you will get from an action made. Aknowledge your feelings instead of just blindly saying this and that and not thinking there wont be a reaction or backlash from it.
When you say something, make sure you are ready to hear the truth, not just what you want to hear. Make sure you are ready to take what is coming back at you. If you start throwing a fit and insulting them back for saying the truth and saying things that you don't want to hear, then that, is immaturity.
13. I need to get to gimping and writing, im slacking on both >:O
14. Ahh, next month I have to go to the Womans Health Clinic for a follow up and other tests and such. Hargaflargin!
2. A gay couple in Miami, Florida have finally beaten the law and have successfully adopted 2 brothers. Florida has had a 3 Decade long ban on gay couples adopting children. But these 2 guys filed a lawsuit against the state and everyone mostly agreed with them, the state didn't appeal. I wish them the best with their 2 children :)
3. Goddamn! Apparently the FBI arrested 127 Mobsters.. Yes, 127 :O The fuck? was there a Costa Nostra meeting or something? that's a lot of fucking people for 1 day.
4. Oh for punk sake. Really? Out of any place in Wisconsin the President wants to visit Manitowoc? That is not what I meant by I wanted to see a celeb in Manitowoc -_- NTS: If he does come here, don't go anywhere that day, traffic will be a bitch.
5. Ugh, Wind Chill Advisory and 3 to 6 inches of snow expected for Manitowoc.
6. A Manitowoc guy gets arrested on battery... cause his wife stole his blanket... what i'm surrounded by folks *facepalm*
7. Another case in Manitowoc, a guy came home and tried strangling his wife... Jared? :O (I'm going to hell in a handbasket, I know)
8. Still sore from yesterday D:
9. "37 Dicks, My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks" "In a row?"
10. "Try not to suck anymore dicks on your way through the parking lot"
11. Eating Beefaroni out of a can *thumbs up*
12. I have been seeing a certain word floating around and getting a lot of usage lately: Maturity.
Now, before going on anymore into the rant about it, this is not a personal attack on anyone, just the word being used a lot in general. So before you think "This bitch is talking about me, isn't she?" No, this bitch is not.
I am sick of people saying that someone is not mature cause they don't agree with you. That is not immaturity, that's just differ in opinion. Having an opinion is way different than immaturity. Opinion: Saying what you think, whether you agree with the other person or not. Immaturity: Tell the other person they are constantly wrong and that you are right every time, constantly ramming your opinion down someones throat. See the differences there?
If someone agrees with you, that is not maturity, it's just agreeing in opinion. If you want someone to agree with you constantly, that is not a "Mature Friend" that is a robot, not a friend.
An example of Maturity is having an argument with someone and somewhere in there finding common ground or an understanding, not exact agreement about everything, but an eye to eye thing. or finding common ground and going your separate ways like adults.
Maturity is having the ability to calm your anger enough and settle differences with out resorting to violence and self destruction. Thinking about what is better in long term than what you can do to win the argument for a short time. If you're wrong, you can face the -if you have any- embarrassment of saying you were wrong and if you were right, don't get a big head and brag about it.
It also mean, keeping your word and being there for friends. Immature people break promises, they always have an excuse for everything and will end up friendless, disorganized, confused. They don't stick with things, therefor they end up doing nothing.
Think about it, when was the last time you said that someone was immature? probably in an argument with a person and you just randomly said they were immature for not agreeing with you? Exactly. People throw the Immaturity/Maturity word around a lot, most of the time when they say it, it's not the actual meanings they have in mind, but twisted meanings that fit to there frame of mind at the time.
It takes 2 (or more) people to be in a situation in which some dub as immature. being mature is taking as much fault as the other person. You are also in the situation, therefor, you said just as much stuff in the conversation.
Our natural reaction to a dispute is to go on the defensive, but you have to work past that if you want to get anywhere. I am not saying that you can't defend yourself or your friends/family/who ever else, you can, but im a calm enough manner so that you are not embarrassing yourself and making the other person look better. Of course you want to make back-handed comments and remarks and fight back with them, But sometimes the comments are so loosely said and sloppy, that you can easily avoid them all together by changing the subject and talking to someone else.
I know ignoring the person is the best option, but if its just a back handed remark then that's pretty avoidable instead of just stirring the pot so an argument does commence.
Do not think about what you don't want to do when put in a situation, but of what you can do to better it and such. You're aware of what you are doing and saying and will know at least some sort of guideline of the reaction you will get from an action made. Aknowledge your feelings instead of just blindly saying this and that and not thinking there wont be a reaction or backlash from it.
When you say something, make sure you are ready to hear the truth, not just what you want to hear. Make sure you are ready to take what is coming back at you. If you start throwing a fit and insulting them back for saying the truth and saying things that you don't want to hear, then that, is immaturity.
13. I need to get to gimping and writing, im slacking on both >:O
14. Ahh, next month I have to go to the Womans Health Clinic for a follow up and other tests and such. Hargaflargin!