Serious conversations with men

[princess_peas]

I've found that trying to pin down a bloke for a serious/important conversation is one of the most difficult things that a woman will ever attempt to do, and it seems that the harder she tries at it, the more difficult fulfilling her objective will become.

Why is this?

I don't believe it's because blokes don't care that something is botherring us.

Comments

[twisted_times]

I think a lot of men are conditioned by the old phrase "Big boys don't cry." I know I am.

This hangs over into adulthood as well, with a lot of men being a lot less inclined to talk about feelings, discuss them with their partners, deal with those feelings themselves of with their freinds or partners or even to give themselves permission to actually have any feelings in the first place. There's still a lot of testosterone-fuelled machismo about this sort of stuff

[twisted_times]

Thank you David.

I figured it might have been something like this, and it does make me want to smack whoever it was that perportrating these lies to young boys, but of course, I don't believe that that solves anything. Guys were only taught it by their fathers, after all (I mean, the fathers were also taught this, or a version of it, and so on).

Although this is a very dangerous arguement to get into.

It still doesn't explain what we ought to do about it, but that is something that men and women (all men and all women, not just those in relationships) both need to work out together, so that men are not continually being fed these lies and they are able to accept that yes, they do actually have feelings and they can still be a man at the same time - and of course, so that women do not continue to feel unrespected by men in this way as well.

[princess_peas]

Sorry, that was me. I forgot to log in. :-)