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I released whatever had been on my mind and I wanted to move on fresh finally.
That lasted, what, a day?
He went to work a double today. I understand why he didn't call me when he got to work, as he left at 6:30 AM. At about 12:30PMish, I decided to send out a message saying I love him and hope he has a good day, and to contact me when he got a chance. He replied maybe an hour or so later. He said the first shift was rather busy, but that he'd give me a call on one of his breaks on the second shift. So it's two hours past the time he'd have his break on the second shift. In fact, his second shift is ending in about two hours and he'll be home in 2.5ish hours. I thought maybe he got busy and didn't take his break or get to use his phone. I just casually opened my messenger app to find the bubble next to his picture say he was active 17 minutes ago. Which is funny since the message I sent last at 1 something is still unread. So I guess calling me wasn't that important. Nor is actually reading my messages. I've taken issue with it lately. He used to always call me or text me throughout the day. I'm not saying use the whole break to talk to me, but check in. Now getting him to even tell me he made it to work safely is like pulling teeth. It's like he doesn't say he got to work okay and doesn't contact me for hours and doesn't understand why it upsets me. Some days he'll arrive at work, not say anything for 7 hours (or more). Like how do I know he didn't get into an accident or some shit? I think what bothers me more is how behaviors shift. Something that was done all the time without asking is now lacking. Even when I mentioned it the other day, he called me the next day. He sarcastically said something like he was "checking in like he was told to". Like...don't force yourself to talk to me then? I told him it's about consistency too and he isn't being consistent with his communications with me. He did his sarcastic check ins yesterday, but today the only communication I've gotten is a general response to the message I sent out. He didn't call me once. He did not message me to say what's up. And clearly he's been on his phone today so like...MESSAGE RECEIVED. I'm not begging anyone to talk to me. I understand things happen, but if it's becoming more and more common, when it wasn't before, then this isn't the result of a "hectic" day.
I had taken a screenshot of when he was last active on FB and sent it with an emoji. I think I sent that about an hour ago. He just responded saying he didn't get a break and a lot of emergencies happened within the jail and that is why he didn't contact me. The thing is...he had the time to go on FB an hour ago? So why did he have time to do that and not to say anything to me? Seems odd, no? Why is he able to type me a long message now about why he couldn't talk to me, but didn't have time to say anything before? He said it was just to check there were no emergencies and that I need to understand where he works...because he doesn't think I do. Yeah, I understand things happen in a jail. I do. But here you have two back to back shifts. 16 hours. In those 16 hours, there was no time to contact me? I'm just not entirely convinced. I'm not convinced you have time to check a phone for notifications, but not to say "sorry I haven't called, it's busy". At the end of the day, I am not a person who wants to come second to a job. Or even to feel like asking for proper communication is somehow wrong of me.
We have upstairs neighbors who were throwing their belongings in a pile on the porch outside our window and keeping them there for months. I had Andy call the landlord to discuss having them remove their items, as it was against our window and overall makes the porch look trashy. The landlord was pissed the items were still there, as he said he asked them to move it multiple times, before we complained. He called them and gave us permission to throw the items away if they did not have it moved by the next day. Turns out, the next morning they moved the items. I was hopeful he left us out of the conversation about having the items moved, but it seems like he may have mentioned us complaining. Just now they went on the porch and the male approached the window where I currently sit here on my computer. He went against the window and let out a large burp and then growled "fuuuuckkk yoooouuuuu" against the window. The girl started laughing and shushing him and urging him to go inside. That has taken my attention away from the issue at hand. How immature. I'd expect that from like an 11 year old boy. What next? A flaming bag of poop on the doorstep? Ding dong ditch? I'd say he should watch it. Andy will not take his crap, that's for sure. My luck is these things always happen when I am alone. I should have opened the curtain so he knew I heard him. I should have said something as they walked in, laughing. There's a lot I should have done, but I just sat there like "what the fuck....". And no, we weren't being "Karens". The outside of our window isn't their storage unit and their shit shouldn't be leaned against our window. I don't care where they put their shit, but keep it away from us. Also, they are overall just shitty people and aren't considerate to anyone else in this building, so I can't say I feel bad about having him complain about them. I just hope they don't keep doing childish bullshit like that.