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[prodigal_lawyer]

Today we had a belated memorial for my father. It was nothing big, and it wasn't religious in any way. It was a little odd, I think, primarily because for me reconciling his death has been a two and a half year process, but for everyone else it was still pretty fresh. Men in their seventies were telling me stories about dad in hushed voices with

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[mcmayhem]

I'm sorry that you're still dealing with all that crap after all this time. And sorry as usual that you have to deal with your mom, period.

[kittyadventurer]

I hope we get to go to that party (did you find out when it is?) - but hopefully people there will focus more on getting to know you than how upsetting it was to be cut out of Alvin's life the last 10+ years.

I did feel very bad for Dave, what do you say to make him feel better in that situation? It was an awkward (albeit short) conversation. He just sort of walked away and I didn't know what to do.

It's hard not to feel frustrated at some of the choices your dad made later in life, but then there is - I'm sure - a guilty feeling for thinking that way when he's gone.

At least it can be comforting to know that so many people still care(d) about him even though he didn't stay in touch with them. That shows what kind of impression he left on them during the time he did spend with them.