Stealth Disagreements

[prtyldy]

Anna and I have recently discovered that we have differing opinions on stealth. She sees that as her ultimate goal, and I have an aversion to the whole idea. We have talked about it a few times, and I have been trying to get a grasp on my feelings, because a lot of my dislike for the idea is a gut reaction, and I am not entirely sure why I have

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[brujaoscura]

Gods yes I can relate
I'm still on this massive roller coaster because I loved Heidy too much to walk away from her.
Could I walk away? Somedays- yes- I could. Do I WANT to? No-I don't.
I fell in love with a man who was obnoxious, rude, a general asshole-because he was taught by example that's what men were supposed to be. I saw something beyond that exterior. So I waited Heidy out. And I was right- there was something totally different. When Heidy came out to me- it was hard as hell. I was hurt, devastated and realized that I had a LOT of thinking to do. I determined that the person I loved and the person I wanted to be with had nothing at all to do with the gender of that person.
I hurt when I think people make fun of her- I get angry when people show intolerance.
I love Heidy- and this has been a hell of a ride- with a lot of painful and scary moments. But it's worth it.
Heidy has since transformed from the constantly obnoxious person to someone more loving paitent and gentle.
Not all of the changes have been good-but the majority

[ftmichael]

Definitely also post this to partners_of_tg. :)

to some of it, I can relate

[outofsynch]

I have friends I met b/f they transitioned and in my mind, when I think about those times, they are who they were when I met them and it doesn't change who they are now. It can be confusing to talk about the same person in two genders w/in the same paragraph b/c I referece a cross-section of time, but for me the transition doesn't change who they were or who they are. and it doesn't have to. for me

Re: to some of it, I can relate

[prtyldy]

Wow, Im glad you got on the soapbox! =)

"the act of taking the journey ensures that it is never erased or forgotten"

Thank you especially for this part. I will try to keep that in mind.

[kristencordy]

Anna has a great friend!

I liked what you said at the you don't want the journey to be erased when it is finished.

It has taken me so many years to realize just what you said and either of you focuss on the end point, you will either miss the path or be ever so disappointed. The journey Anna is on will be something she will need to travel each day and understand. I realize that for me I can't try to be a woman because I will fail so miserably. Rather I have to first be myself and just enjoy finally finding a path.

I also realized that for so many years I tried to act as the uber male and it was just an act. So it would be just another act to try to be the ultra fem woman. So I figure that just being happy with myself everyday is the best I can do.

Both you and Anna will meet unbelievably dumb and crass people. You will meet them all the time.

Just enjoy your journey and realize that it will be up and down.

K