And so after she leaves tomorrow with her Mum, I'm not going to see her again. That's so weird to me. Like never ever? She's going to cut you out of her life because you have 'odd' behavior?
I kind of get where she's coming from because after three years, when my housemate left I was glad too, simply because we were just kind of over one another. We needed some distance before we totally ruined our friendship. And yeah, I spend much more time at home than she did, so in the end it did feel much more like my house than both our house. But the way your housemate is going about it... It's a bit passive-aggressive really. So apparently you make her feel like you feel you own the house, but she never spoke up about it? That's stupid.
Don't let this get you down! You're not crap and you're not odd, as far as I can tell from your lj anyway. :)
Well, I do own the house, but I have always strived to not be the 'bratty landlord's daughter.' I've never made a joke about owning it, so I have no idea where that came from.
I'll agree that some people are just not meant to live together. Me and four of my eight (over time) roommates in college. Me and Scott's ex-roommate who was a perfectly nice guy but made salsa with my snow-cone machine (and if I'm being honest, I'm still holding a grudge against Mark for that one.) My friends Serge and Sanjay, who were awesome friends until they lived together.
Don't let it get to you too much. Two of my ex-roommates didn't like my "odd behavior" (being into sci-fi, having rodents as pets, being reclusive due to trying not to fail out of college, being messy--okay, that was my bad, but I kept it confined to my room and at least none of my pets ever ate the living room blinds), either. Screw 'em.
Thanks. Yeah, I have no idea what possessed her to come out with a list of my faults--some justified, some not. I mostly feel very uneasy that she hated living with me and I didn't know it. I thought we were friends, and to have it all blow up and--well, she didn't even say goodbye when she left. We're probably not friends. I wonder how long we haven't been.
And I thought second year would be better re: accommodation. There were no signs of hostility til this was all unleashed!
Sorry for your pants housemate. She sounds very blunt, but also extremely rude. If she'd decided to be that blunt she could have at least had a little more tact, argh. I wouldn't worry about her though, if she can't stand 'odd behaviour' I'd like to know how she'll cope in another country for a year, where everyone will have 'odd behaviour' in comparison.
I had a 'friend' come out with things like that to me once, she then proceeded to make my life hell for two years. But in a way I'm glad she did because I didn't rely on anyone after that, I gained some independance and I learnt more about myself through that independance. Although she's still a complete cow, and I'll never forgive her for the way she did it.
Agreeing with comments above, some people just aren't meant to live together. Me and a couple of my friends know that if we live together we'll end up killing each other at some point and I know of friends who lived together and now don't speak because of it. It's crap.
Thanks :) I really wish I'd noticed something was wrong earlier. She didn't even say goodbye when she left. I don't think we'll be friends again--and I blush to think of the way I've acted because I thought we *were* friends. I must have been so annoying.
But I guess...what's done is done. I just have to make sure I work on her (valid) criticisms--because some of what she said was fucking tosh--so I can be a better housemate to a nicer person.
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And so after she leaves tomorrow with her Mum, I'm not going to see her again.
That's so weird to me. Like never ever? She's going to cut you out of her life because you have 'odd' behavior?
I kind of get where she's coming from because after three years, when my housemate left I was glad too, simply because we were just kind of over one another. We needed some distance before we totally ruined our friendship. And yeah, I spend much more time at home than she did, so in the end it did feel much more like my house than both our house. But the way your housemate is going about it... It's a bit passive-aggressive really. So apparently you make her feel like you feel you own the house, but she never spoke up about it? That's stupid.
Don't let this get you down! You're not crap and you're not odd, as far as I can tell from your lj anyway. :)
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As for the first, it's probable.
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I'll agree that some people are just not meant to live together. Me and four of my eight (over time) roommates in college. Me and Scott's ex-roommate who was a perfectly nice guy but made salsa with my snow-cone machine (and if I'm being honest, I'm still holding a grudge against Mark for that one.) My friends Serge and Sanjay, who were awesome friends until they lived together.
Don't let it get to you too much. Two of my ex-roommates didn't like my "odd behavior" (being into sci-fi, having rodents as pets, being reclusive due to trying not to fail out of college, being messy--okay, that was my bad, but I kept it confined to my room and at least none of my pets ever ate the living room blinds), either. Screw 'em.
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And I thought second year would be better re: accommodation. There were no signs of hostility til this was all unleashed!
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I guess I'll find out what she means. I asked her what I'd done wrong, so I can work on it, and she says she'll email me a list of my odd behaviour.
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Sorry for your pants housemate. She sounds very blunt, but also extremely rude. If she'd decided to be that blunt she could have at least had a little more tact, argh. I wouldn't worry about her though, if she can't stand 'odd behaviour' I'd like to know how she'll cope in another country for a year, where everyone will have 'odd behaviour' in comparison.
I had a 'friend' come out with things like that to me once, she then proceeded to make my life hell for two years. But in a way I'm glad she did because I didn't rely on anyone after that, I gained some independance and I learnt more about myself through that independance. Although she's still a complete cow, and I'll never forgive her for the way she did it.
Agreeing with comments above, some people just aren't meant to live together. Me and a couple of my friends know that if we live together we'll end up killing each other at some point and I know of friends who lived together and now don't speak because of it. It's crap.
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But I guess...what's done is done. I just have to make sure I work on her (valid) criticisms--because some of what she said was fucking tosh--so I can be a better housemate to a nicer person.
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*hugs*
Don't let the bastards grind you down. ♥
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