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Oct 11, 2007 07:17

Yesterday pete broke up with me... today I can barely function... though I am not 100% surprised... I had these nagging feelings like he didnt love me anymore, but trying to learn from past mistakes, I decided to ignore those insecurities and work on our relationship... He tells me that what I considered a big change (my schedule finally going back ( Read more... )

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misskitten77 October 11 2007, 16:26:56 UTC

Oh my, this has been a bad week for everyone, it seems. I am so sorry you are going through this. I know it hurts. First hand experience here. If there is anything I can do, even just listening to you vent/cry/ramble, let me know. Please keep yourself safe, that is my biggest request. Even if you feel like you don't care about yourself, there are others that do care about you. *hugs*

purpleskunk October 11 2007, 17:52:17 UTC

even though I don't know you IRL that means a lot... thank you

misskitten77 October 11 2007, 17:55:03 UTC

You're welcome. I have lots of close friends that I've never actually met. Its the IRL people that scare me, heh.

purpleskunk October 11 2007, 17:59:57 UTC

awwwwwwww skunks! ^_^ that made me happy lol

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lowellius October 11 2007, 17:17:56 UTC

Pick up and move on. He may put up a good front, but you know he misses you too. You saw this coming form at least a week out from the way you were talking the other day.

Oh, and don't take him back. Enough is enough, you guys are just not compatible on the long term. If you can salvage a friendship from this, great. If not, oh well.

You can find someone better. I know you know that they're out there. Do what you can.

Take it slow. Your mind will go out of control otherwise.

purpleskunk October 11 2007, 17:59:01 UTC

I know I had the feeling the other day, but I figured it was just my mind fabricating things... so I decided to ignore it this time...

I just don't know how he can say that he didnt want me involved with his friends... saying "I can't have a life?" ... i should have just known that he was done for sure by that comment... who really tries to love someone and makes plans with friends instead

lowellius October 11 2007, 18:37:08 UTC

Thats my point. He's not able to commit to a relationship. I have no shame in saying he's a flake. He flaked out on so many commitments that it became a running joke between the rest of us. You can't rely on him to do anything other than hang out with Missy or his mother. If he didn't think he'd have fun, he didn't want to do it, and made the lamest excuses ever for it.

Believe me when I say you're better off this time. Take a break from dating, get your shit in order, and you'll be a happier guy in the long run. We know it hurts to just give up on a relationship. But hey, at least it wasn't 5-6 years like it was for us, right? I bet that was much harder than this. You guys had a good run, just make new arrangements and move on, right?

purpleskunk October 11 2007, 19:48:21 UTC

even still there is a part of me that hurts when I see you... it's not as bad as before... I know what I have and am ok with it... I'm just hoping this will be easier... as much as I want to say I don't... I love him a lot...

I guess I'm just one of those people destined to be alone and depressed...

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salem_shadow October 11 2007, 20:08:17 UTC

Pretty sure Brent got it right :p He knows you pretty damn well, and it's a chance for you to have one less thing on your mind.

Hey.. and What's this alone and depressed forever BS? you have friends, you're never alone, and you'll always be depressed! it's you! you're depressed, and a jerk too! :P

At least the day you find someone that's compatible for you for long term, you'll know it, and you won't have fights and stuff every few days, and you'll be better for it.. I'd pull the it's better to have loved and lost, bullshit, but yeah.. i know it's bullshit :P

<3 you, and you know that (as a friend! gah!) so cheer up sunshine, and remember there are more than enough people to make your life far from pointless!

lowellius October 11 2007, 20:39:37 UTC

As scary as it is to see Ben so optimistic, he got it right. You shouldn't rush into something else, and know that we're here for you.

purpleskunk October 11 2007, 21:50:20 UTC

Thanks guys... though the ones that know me know I'll be depressed anyway...

trying to see a silver lining but can't see through the tears ><;

purpleskunk October 11 2007, 22:21:31 UTC

doesn't help that I have been talking to people about it and listening to depressing music >

kikyokujo October 11 2007, 23:04:17 UTC

OK hun, here's my take on this.

You are so better off without him.

I know it hurts, I've been through this once already this year too, it's gonna be hard. Right now, you need your friends. It helps to get your head clear, and makes you feel better. You guys rallied around me when he left, and I will do whatever I can for you. Though I will admit, right now it's kinda tough for me.

You won't be alone forever, and you're not destined to be alone forever. This is just a bump in the road. Things will get better.