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Dec 20, 2013 18:33

For the second year in a row I'm struggling with my family in the lead-up to Christmas. It sort of puts a damper on the most wonderful time of the year. I hate it because I love Christmas, but I feel like this angst saps all my joy ( Read more... )

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fragments_ December 22 2013, 03:30:41 UTC

Wow, dramas huh? I'm sorry you're having such a shitty lead-up to Christmas, I know how much you love it! Is there a reason you can't just ignore the request for pre-packaged crap and cook something anyway? Or would just just cause more tension?

I hope it sorts itself out somehow, I'm not really sure what the answer is though. Oh, but I do think you should definitely do for Shannon what you do for the others. Hmm, although it depends how much of a dick he is I guess. I know one of my SIL's partners, I always refused to even look at him or acknowledge his existence because I hate him with every fibre of my being (and so does everyone else in the family). So in that situation I wouldn't do anything for him and I wouldn't give a shit about it either. But if Shannon's not quite at that level then I don't see the harm!

purpletigress December 22 2013, 04:05:51 UTC

Rewind a couple of years ago and Shannon was threatening to kill everyone in our family and stabbing my sister in the hand with a kitchen knife so badly that she required microsurgery. Needless to say, that's not something I have forgotten. I don't hate the guy. I know he's bipolar and hasn't always been medicated. But I also don't have any connection to him either. He doesn't show up to most family functions, including half the Christmases. I also think the relationship between him and my sister is really toxic, and I don't endorse it. So as far as I'm concerned, for all these reasons, he's kind of lucky that we extend the same courtesy to him as we do cousins. In a way he actually does better because he doesn't have to share his homemade gifts with a partner the way my cousins and aunt and uncle do. I know we're making the right call for us, but I hate that people think they have the right to guilt us about it. I'm not buying for anyone on the basis of guilt ( ... )