Pondering my blind spots

[qrssama]

- disclaimer - I am at the early mental stages of working this stuff out, so what I write here may not actually be what I think

Comments

I hope I'm not stomping on your paradigm shift....

[airsucker]

Just to make you aware, there's more to alternate genders than just gay and lesbian. There are several different queer identities.

Re: I hope I'm not stomping on your paradigm shift....

[qrssama]

I think I know that, but I am unclear how all those different gender identities play into either "who I want to be when I grow up" and "who I get to be when I grow up." Maybe figuring out what differences are will help sort some of it out.

Re: I hope I'm not stomping on your paradigm shift....

[airsucker]

I think that the way gender relates to who I want to be when I grow up is changing, but after reading the post about your interview I think its changing more slowly than I thought.

[fjm]

It might help if you substitute "relationship" for sex, both because not all relationships that look like sexual ones, involve sex, and also because it's the relationship which is the key to the power issue

[qrssama]

That is really useful - thank you. In thinking a bit more about what I am interested in getting to, I realized that there is another element here, which is access to activities and types of informal learning during childhood that shape opportunities as adults. A boy who is systematically excluded from those circles because of his behavior, or a girl who is systematically included because of hers, may play a role in how the gendered expectations play out.

I will go find Faderman and see how the macro-forces are operating on the micro-forces.

[sartorias]

Interesting questions. My thought was akin to FJM's: substitute the word "relationship" and see if that helps things align better. The problem with "sex" is that there are so many definitions.