I: A Public Post

[queenalia]

I posted this on Facebook, but my page there is very much friends-only. I think it is time that this post be available in a format anyone can see/ link to. Reading other people's experiences-- even when we're not friends-- has helped me articulate myself and my identity.

Maybe this post will help someone else.

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I’ve come out as poor, before-back

Comments

[queenalia]

I'm pleased that it's still making the rounds! That's pretty cool. Still sorry magic wands have not been waved and everyone is blissfully happy, though. Gotta work on my wand-waving skillz...

[allgudallthetim]

My mother married her husband, my father, totally in love with him. Their life was not a fairy tale... He could be a good and funny man when he wanted to be, but he had demons of his own, and my mothers life was pretty miserable. I guess her childhood was not that great either. So the only thing she could control was how much she ate and what she ate. Which was a lot of junk and fatty stuff. She was pretty svelte when she first married...but after my father struck her in the face, when they got home from their honeymoon, because she "talked back to him", well, that was the end of the honeymoon....she raised 5 kids, and barely kept it together, with this "man she loved". She got big. Probably 250 or so....and hated herself. My father died in 1995, and she still loved him. But she hated herself for being "fat" and not being able to "not be fat". I am the oldest of her kids. We all tried to help her, growing up, but we were kids....
I so appreciate your post. I know where it comes from.