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[hydr0cl0r1de]

hey...

So basically i've just realised that i might be  gay and wondering if i'm ever going to be ok or if any gay man is actually going to want to be with me sexually. i have been with a few guys recently, and its not as if anything went wrong.. i just am feeling fucked up about the whole thing

Its all doing my head in. =(

i've had some nice

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[ribald_faggot]

There will always be guys who will be into you, and there will always be guys who won't. It's tough to take the rejection sometimes, but you gotta remember it's not really about you as a person, most of the time it's just their hangups about you being trans. Their loss!

[hydr0cl0r1de]

a lot of whats worrying me is also about learning how to communicate with men, and not being sure how upfront i should be. i hate being self conscious about whether or not i fit in socially in groups of gay men, usually i feel fine about it until i start wondering if they'd be acting differently if i werent there, or if gay guys that know i'm trans feel as if they should go to some extra effort to make me feel comfortable or something.

i've been hanging out with this guy i really like, i know that he likes me too. we have hooked up a few times. i know he likes me, or.. i know he wants to be attracted to me but maybe he's not sure if he can be because of my body. he just told me i need to be patient with him (in terms of sex or whatever) but i dunno if that means he's not into it.

[styggian_nights]

I feel the same and I'm not even on t and don't know when I can start. I could probably pass while binding but the physical body beneath it all is still all female even if I'm not. I keep wondering what kind of guy would be interested in me when I like this. I know there are guys out there that wouldn't mind but I feel really insecure about it still.

It doesn't help that I'm picky too I guess. I like pretty boys mostly (find me one that looks like Jake Gyllinhall mmmmm!) so I worry there's too many confounding circumstances for me.

[ftmichael]

You'll be fine. Post to any_bodied_men as well as here.

[ftmichael]

Definitely also post this to any_bodied_men. You'll likely get more responses there.

[in_vino]

oh my yes. there are lots of men, both trans- and cis-, who love trans men of any sort. just take it slow is my advice, and try and build some trust with a new potential partner before having sex with them.

ps. i'm in an almost identical situation as you: thinking i might be gay but in a relationship with not one but two women, one trans one cis. boys do scare me tho on a really fundamental level, so i've held off on exploring that aspect of myself.