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[mr_tommy_gunn]

this past pride i kept having to convince people that i wasn't some wierd stright dude just trying to get into "queer/dyke" oriented events after dyke march.REBEL GIRL almost turned me away until i got security (friends of mine) to vouch for me and had to flash my ID around about 10,000,000 times

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[boykaiden]

I hear what you're sayin Tommy....and it does suck. .I was having some major issues with that, as well among many other things...needless to say I decided to stop taking T. I pass now about 100% of the time in straight crowds-the T can take credit for that. but I'm still "queer" looking or amiguous enough to where I can have "some" of both worlds and I'm really happy with that. I personally identify as a genderqueer FtM though..and for you...If you really do want to live as male, then pretty much you're just gonna have to learn to live with that privilege and respect the lesbian/dyke spaces. I have no idea what kind of space REBEL GIRL consists of...I'm assuming it's lesbian/dyke oriented, so I can only assume that if they wanted to be around FtM's or male identified people, that they would seek out a more inclusive space.

[gimmetrouble]

i'm very interested in the route you've taken with T. I've really been thinking about it a lot and i'm considering this same course of action. if you don't mind if i ask a few questions -- how long were you on T? and was there a time when you weren't "queer" looking enough to have your foot in the queer world?

[boykaiden]

I responded with some info down below to another user if you'd like to read that.

as far as you're other question goes "was there a time when you weren't "queer" looking enough to have your foot in the queer world?"

"Queer world" =no, but everyone assumes I'm a gay man. lesbian/dyke world= yes

I pretty much stay out of "scenes" though these days. I rarely go out cuz I have a lot going on in my life and I pretty much just hang out with my core group of friends who are a mixture of straight and lesbian/gay who are already cool with me as is.

my email is below as well if you have more inquiries.

[sarcasmrally]

i'm also very interested in how you managed that. you have just described the exact route i want to take with T and transitioning. along with the other questions posed by gimmetrouble, i was wondering what your dosage was? and how often you took your shots?

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[lagarou]

i would have to agreee with th people who are saying that you have essecially traded up. you have transitioned to a male identity so you need to accept when people treat you as a man. in the meantime i would encourage you to find and or facilitate "queer" space. in larger cities it is easier to find bigger groups of people who are accepting of transpeople. but it's worth your time to get out there and find people who see themselves as queer and or pansexual instead of just gay or lesbian.
a good way to find these people is to go to activist organising. lots of people who self indentify as queer or pansexual can be found there. ohy, and not to toot it's horn but myspace has some very large queer and pansexual groups. if you haven't been to myspace you might want to check it out. it'll make your world much smaller.
-dale