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[quidditchkiss]

I always thought there was something wrong with me, sexually. That, because I wasn't having sex or wasn't interested in the thought of having sex that I wasn't doing something right by me. I've never had a boyfriend. I had boys I hung around with for a few days, until they found someone prettier, someone who paid better attention to them. Society

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[luminoso]

I love you a lot. You are an amazing and wonderful and brave person for sharing this. ♥

[quidditchkiss]

I love you so much. ♥

[lepapillon]

Loves you no matter what but I'm glad you are feeling more balanced and happy with yourself now. (That sounds so lame, but basically I am really happy for you.)

[quidditchkiss]

I feel so much better about myself to be honest. It felt invigorating to get all this out, to share it with my little world here.

[adeline]

♥♥♥♥♥

The world is wretched is uncountable ways, but one thing our times are getting right is providing knowledge and support in pretty much every area where human thought exists. I am so happy on your behalf that you've found an identity that fits so well!

Although to our times' discredit again, sexual identities are so prevalent and romantic identities so neglected, sometimes it gives me pause because I just don't understand that. Like, I don't really believe in binaries (even though on the Kinsey scale I'm probably only 0.5-1.0 LOL) but I should certainly HOPE that if the greatest love of my life came along, I wouldn't let something as arbitrary* as gender identity get in the way. If that makes me pan-romantic, awesome!

*i mean that as in "randomly assigned by the fates", NOT trivial in any way

[quidditchkiss]

Seeking out that knowledge and meeting people who gave me source material, it helped so much. Reading it all and still learning and educating myself has been an experience. This whole revelation has been an experience. AND YES! The way society has ingrained in nearly everyone that your sexual identity is all that matters and that romantic ones don't make sense or don't exist is just gross and NOT educating anyone further about this at all. I'm 99% sure if I talked about this with any coworkers they'd all say the same thing, "I didn't know that was even a thing." AND THAT'S SAD TO ME.

HELL YEAH, PANROMANTIC!

[gabsy]

ILU SO MUCH.

I am so happy you found your identity! so happy for you!! It's definitely a long process, and I'm still going through it, but it's so worth it to finally find where you belong. Not that labels are a necessity, but they can help.

♥

[quidditchkiss]

ILU MORE!

And you're right, labels aren't a necessity at all, it just feels good knowing that you aren't alone. That there are others out there who are, you know, asexual, demisexual, pansexual etc etc etc. And that there ARE romantic identities that don't hinge on sex. It feels good knowing that I actually have an identity.

[quidditchkiss]

I had to write it out first, I don't know why. It felt good writing all this out; it took 7 pages, front and back. I haven't told my Mom about this so I'm thinking I might give her the papers. I just need to her to know that I'm okay, that I'm fine, that I have an identity.