Eh...honestly this sounds like a passive aggressive guilt trip. I may not like douchebags but I had my share of misogynist 'Nice Guys' guilt trip me into dating them to where I've little patience for them either. I don't owe anyone anything back for liking me or being nice to me.
But then, I'm happily in a relationship with someone of the same sex anyway.
Even if she doesn't want to date you, you say you are her friend. You talk to her when she has boyfriend troubles as friends do, hang out with her in the way friends do and hold car doors open as some guys do when they try to be gentlemanly. Those are all normal things friends do for each other but you are NOT her friend. I can't understand how you are too blind too see that performing normal acts of friendship and expecting her to repay you by becoming your girlfriend is actual friendship. It's manipulative and sick, spending so many hours talking to her on the phone when she has boyfriend troubles in the hopes that she will see how good you are for her and love you is beyond twisted. Love is not a video game where you score points and get a reward(love) when you have enough and neither are acts of friendship currency you can use to buy her love. Your friendship with her is not selfless AT ALL, you are trying to manipulate her into having a relationship with you
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I kind of forwarded this from somewhere else. I'm not all "superficial" at all. It's a use of hyperbole...and no, I would NOT go as far as to dump my family....even for that true special girl who actually did love me. But thank you for opening a debate on this.
Also, sometimes it seems even when I just do normally FRIENDLY things, I even get rejected AS A FRIEND.
Such is life, people don't owe you friendship in return for being nice to them and I don't see what this has to do with your issues. That you copypasted this doesn't matter, apparently you felt like it was true and relevant to your situation even though it's a deeply fucked up way of thinking. I've seen it in other parts of your journal too: you feel sorry for yourself when girls don't want to date you and instead of actually thinking about why they might not want to date you you blame them for not seeing how wonderful you are
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Ok. Think that girls don't see how wonderful I am? I have problems thinking that I'm somehow "defective", it's taking me a long time to get over that. It's a long and slow process. I have issues, definitely
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There are girls who appreciate the good guys, honest.
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But then, I'm happily in a relationship with someone of the same sex anyway.
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Also, sometimes it seems even when I just do normally FRIENDLY things, I even get rejected AS A FRIEND.
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