Comments | rabid_pickle: My lj is my escape world

rabid_pickle

My lj is my escape world - hate me if you will

Dec 09, 2008 17:15

So I've been away from lj alot in the last year or so, haven't I? I briefly come here every day or so, skim through the posts and although I think of posting about this or that topic for some reason I never do it. My lj has gone from my daily journaling of my thoughts to my escape world ( Read more... )

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vampyrecat December 10 2008, 05:36:15 UTC

I did piss some people off when I was pregnant with Tenzin. I was crying so much at work toward the end that I could barely get any work done ( ... )

angille December 10 2008, 17:42:39 UTC

FMLA and OFLA aren't the issue. She's fine on those - the full 12 weeks are available. The issue is disability payment. Because we're here in Oregon, we get no SDI help from the state, so we have to rely on the disability insurance from her employer. Which doesn't apply until a year after hire date, a scant two weeks after Alexander's due date.

As for refinancing... maybe we'll look at it again, but only a few months ago they refused to touch the concept because we owe more than the house is worth. Maybe they'd be receptive now though, who knows.

vampyrecat December 10 2008, 19:25:34 UTC

I think you should put in a disability claim that starts on her hire anniversary. If her doctor will certify that she is still unable to work at that point, how can they deny it?

As for the Re-fi, if you go to your lender and say that you want a re-fi, it seems like they'd be stupid not to work something out to lower you monthly payments considering that you may have to walk away otherwise.

angille December 10 2008, 22:22:42 UTC

Something about the date of the "qualifying event" or something. Whee?

And I just had a nice long chat with both our mortgage banks. Re-fi is out of the question, and until we start skipping our payments, they won't even make a "loan modification" - urg.

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xinejaquette December 10 2008, 19:24:43 UTC

I have to admit I miss you a lot lately. And I really wanted to see you guys this past weekend but I was afraid of making you ill. You are making a person. You get all kinds of slack from me.

And I will be there when you want me. Just picture the end scenes of Labyrinth. Should you need us, Kurt and I will be there. Even if what you need is help packing up, cleaning out and leaving to CA though I up it doesn't come to that.

Until you feel more social or your good days line up with me being healthy and available, I am pouring all thought and emotions towards you and Jamers into the cross stitch birth record. It is nice to have something I can do for you even though I haven't seen you lately. Makes me feel connected.

I felt the same way making the veil when we were cut off in Monterey with no friends and getting up to Santa Cruz weekly was difficult.

And I feel the same way about LJ. I post and silence responds. It is like there is no one listening. My husband and therapist have been more useful lately. Maybe I am out growing LJ.

rabid_pickle December 11 2008, 01:08:26 UTC

I can't thank you enough for staying away - only because I don't want to get sick, nor can I afford to get sick at this point.

Hopefully we won't have to move. I've been assured by my family members that we won't lose the house. However, it is something that is a possibility so we need to think about it as well.

Let us know when you guys are feeling better. Honestly the only day I feel like people is Saturdays. I'm pretty rested from sleep Friday night and I haven't had to go to work.