I'm mostly repeating what people have already said, but yeah, the best thing to do is to find her and talk to her about it. I had this happen to me with my boyfriend while I was in Japan, he kept doing things like forgetting or being late to our scheduled Skype dates, to the point where it would become 3 or 4am for me and I wouldn't be able to stay up and had to go bed, and he didn't realize just how stood up and upset it was making me feel until I talked to him about it. It's a horrible conversation to have to start, but the way I do it is I think about ripping bandaids. It's not easy to back out of a conversation once you've started it, so I push (or ignore) all the dread away for one second and just say "So I've been really upset", or whatever phrase that would start a conversation. Then the dread comes flooding back in but now I can't back out, you know? It's helped me solve a lot of issues with my friends and my boyfriend. They're shitty conversations to have, but all you need is that one second of justdoitnowfuckit to put the
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I wish the same method that works with my dad - writing him a letter and leaving it on his computer - worked with every situation, I'm much more eloquent with a keyboard, haha. But yeah, I'm going to try and pin her down at some point on Monday or Wednesday after class and she if we could talk then. I really wish I could talk to her right now, but it being 2am and me not wanting to do it over text message or the phone is halting that train
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Thing that I forgot to mention: A few of the times that my boyfriend forgot/was late to our Skype dates it was because he was at a party, or went to hang out with his friends because he didn't have other plans for the day (again, forgetting that he'd promised to talk to me). And nothing made me more miserable than seeing the "Awesome party last night!!" statuses he would post on Facebook. So I can definitely understand you there >_
Facebook is addictive, but also the source of so much angst and emotion on a daily basis. It has turned into such a annoying place, haha. If I didn't only communicate with some of my friends through FB, I would definitely delete it!
Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear that about your friend. Luckily on my front, I don't think we've gotten into that zone as of yet or if we ever will (I hope). The only time we've ever "not been friends" was for a very short time when she was dating one boy none of us approved of in the slightest, but that was less then a month of our 8 year friendship.
I hope things get better for you, because that sounds truly awful to just all of sudden lose a friend and not know the reason why they suddenly didn't want to be friends anymore.
I see you've resolved the issue already but, this: "Several times she has gone and made other plans with the excuse, "Oh, I didn't think we had anything planned." "
God, that is EXACTLY what happened with my 'best friend' in highschool. We had like a standing thing almost every weekend, we would stay at her house or her grandparents house, and then it was 'oh I have plans this weekend, I thought that was -next- weekend you were coming over.' and then next weekend it was "Oh I forgot..." and such. We did not stay friends very long after that.
*hugs* I'm going through similar with my 'current' best friend, at least 'in this state'. I sympathize. Also, I am glad that you live. And I have a new, TS3 legacy, if you feel like stalking me again. ;)
The issue seems to have cropped up again, it seems. I'm still not sure what the reason is for her distancing herself from me. When school started, we were good, we would hang out a couple of times a week after class or during our joint break time from class; however, over the past two weeks its the same story all over again. It's just so bizarre. I've gone over and over in my head as to what has triggered this random burst of avoidance.
I was even texting her the other day, being friendly, since she seemed ticked over something. I am supposed to be doing a photoshoot with both her and her boyfriend this Thursday and I can't even get a confirmation that she is still free to do it. So frustrating. I have learned to avoid Facebook after a certain time of night as it so often has killed my happy buzz from a good day.
Typically she will distance herself from everyone if she is dating a guy, it has happened before; however, those had been with boyfriends no one seemed to like except for her. This time, her boyfriend is
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I hope things get better for you, because that sounds truly awful to just all of sudden lose a friend and not know the reason why they suddenly didn't want to be friends anymore.
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"Several times she has gone and made other plans with the excuse, "Oh, I didn't think we had anything planned." "
God, that is EXACTLY what happened with my 'best friend' in highschool. We had like a standing thing almost every weekend, we would stay at her house or her grandparents house, and then it was 'oh I have plans this weekend, I thought that was -next- weekend you were coming over.' and then next weekend it was "Oh I forgot..." and such. We did not stay friends very long after that.
*hugs* I'm going through similar with my 'current' best friend, at least 'in this state'. I sympathize. Also, I am glad that you live. And I have a new, TS3 legacy, if you feel like stalking me again. ;)
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I was even texting her the other day, being friendly, since she seemed ticked over something. I am supposed to be doing a photoshoot with both her and her boyfriend this Thursday and I can't even get a confirmation that she is still free to do it. So frustrating. I have learned to avoid Facebook after a certain time of night as it so often has killed my happy buzz from a good day.
Typically she will distance herself from everyone if she is dating a guy, it has happened before; however, those had been with boyfriends no one seemed to like except for her. This time, her boyfriend is ( ... )
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