this is not a fic
no, but actually, this is not a fic, this is just another one of my rants--
Some of my closest friends and I have very different opinions about many things--religion, politics, economic policy.
There are topics you just do not approach, because it's probably going to lead to an argument.
Instead, we focus on the stuff we have in common. The stuff that pulled us together in the first place, the stuff we can laugh and cry about.
And I love that. I value my friendships, appreciate what I have, and love that we can coexist despite our differences.
Now, in the past year, I've noticed that this peaceful coexistence does not apply everywhere.
Yup, growing up sucks.
It's just this annoyance that's been building up inside me and now I'm just erupting. (So much innuendo, I know.)
But seriously.There are some things I can be unreasonable about (ex. Icky Collins in RB), but I'm glad to be at that point where I can accept that people have different opinions than me. I'm not going to their twitters or tumblrs or whatever and telling them how dumb they are or trying to change their minds. This is how they'll grown and learn, so let's just leave it there.
The point I'm getting at is that I really wish people would just accept that someone else does not have the same opinion as them. Can you not fucking waste both your time and my time in trying to change my mind about something?
My sister and I had different opinions on abortion for the longest time. I was annoyed that she didn't agree with me, but I left it at that and didn't bother bringing it up. Now, a few years later, she brought the topic up herself and told me how her view has changed based on stuff she's learned/read/thought about. I left her to it and she came around herself, we didn't waste energy trying to convince each other to think our way.
I've been told that I have this 'leadership/take-charge' personality where I'm kind of a dictator in friendships. It's my way or the highway, I have a type in friends, and I just automatically get the final say. I say what's on my mind and end up being unknowingly rude, sometimes. I've never done that consciously, or intentionally, and I didn't even notice until my sister pointed it out. But yes, she's right, I can be stubborn and I can display that attitude.
Despite all of that though, I can also accept that someone thinks differently, and leave it at that. If I express an opinion somewhere, I expect the same courtesy. I wish people would stop getting on my back and trying to prove me wrong. (i.e: people that have issues with my religiousness. So yes, I believe in God. Guess what? Nothing you say will change that. You don't agree with a practice? Fuck you, actually, because my belief in God is what gets me through the day, most of the time, and I'm not going to stop believing because you spent countless hours trying to prove why you don't agree with my religious practices. Just, believe in what you believe and leave me the fuck alone. If I wanted your opinion, I'd ask for it. If I wanted to debate, I'd debate with you. I just do not like getting someone's opinion when it's not asked for, sometimes we just want to express our opinion and rant. Anyway...)
THE POINT IS that people need to stfu sometimes. You believe in what you believe, good for you. I might have an opinion on you (aka, I might think you're a fucking idiot) but I'm not going to waste my time and energy in trying to convince you otherwise. I might like something that you hate. You might like something that I hate. I might be happy about something that makes you miserable, and vice versa. That does not make it okay for you to actively try and convince me otherwise, to try and bring me down with you. You wanna jump into the lake, Jack, you can go right the fuck ahead, but you better let go of my hand and trying to drag me down with you. If I want to jump, it'll be of my own accord, but the more you try to pull me down, the more I will resist.
It's okay for someone to have a different opinion than you. And if it's on something that they're wrong about, the truth will come out in due time. It's okay to be wrong, it's okay to fuck up. So, for fuck's sake, accept that someone disagrees and move the fuck along.
Thank you and good night.
Some of my closest friends and I have very different opinions about many things--religion, politics, economic policy.
There are topics you just do not approach, because it's probably going to lead to an argument.
Instead, we focus on the stuff we have in common. The stuff that pulled us together in the first place, the stuff we can laugh and cry about.
And I love that. I value my friendships, appreciate what I have, and love that we can coexist despite our differences.
Now, in the past year, I've noticed that this peaceful coexistence does not apply everywhere.
Yup, growing up sucks.
It's just this annoyance that's been building up inside me and now I'm just erupting. (So much innuendo, I know.)
But seriously.There are some things I can be unreasonable about (ex. Icky Collins in RB), but I'm glad to be at that point where I can accept that people have different opinions than me. I'm not going to their twitters or tumblrs or whatever and telling them how dumb they are or trying to change their minds. This is how they'll grown and learn, so let's just leave it there.
The point I'm getting at is that I really wish people would just accept that someone else does not have the same opinion as them. Can you not fucking waste both your time and my time in trying to change my mind about something?
My sister and I had different opinions on abortion for the longest time. I was annoyed that she didn't agree with me, but I left it at that and didn't bother bringing it up. Now, a few years later, she brought the topic up herself and told me how her view has changed based on stuff she's learned/read/thought about. I left her to it and she came around herself, we didn't waste energy trying to convince each other to think our way.
I've been told that I have this 'leadership/take-charge' personality where I'm kind of a dictator in friendships. It's my way or the highway, I have a type in friends, and I just automatically get the final say. I say what's on my mind and end up being unknowingly rude, sometimes. I've never done that consciously, or intentionally, and I didn't even notice until my sister pointed it out. But yes, she's right, I can be stubborn and I can display that attitude.
Despite all of that though, I can also accept that someone thinks differently, and leave it at that. If I express an opinion somewhere, I expect the same courtesy. I wish people would stop getting on my back and trying to prove me wrong. (i.e: people that have issues with my religiousness. So yes, I believe in God. Guess what? Nothing you say will change that. You don't agree with a practice? Fuck you, actually, because my belief in God is what gets me through the day, most of the time, and I'm not going to stop believing because you spent countless hours trying to prove why you don't agree with my religious practices. Just, believe in what you believe and leave me the fuck alone. If I wanted your opinion, I'd ask for it. If I wanted to debate, I'd debate with you. I just do not like getting someone's opinion when it's not asked for, sometimes we just want to express our opinion and rant. Anyway...)
THE POINT IS that people need to stfu sometimes. You believe in what you believe, good for you. I might have an opinion on you (aka, I might think you're a fucking idiot) but I'm not going to waste my time and energy in trying to convince you otherwise. I might like something that you hate. You might like something that I hate. I might be happy about something that makes you miserable, and vice versa. That does not make it okay for you to actively try and convince me otherwise, to try and bring me down with you. You wanna jump into the lake, Jack, you can go right the fuck ahead, but you better let go of my hand and trying to drag me down with you. If I want to jump, it'll be of my own accord, but the more you try to pull me down, the more I will resist.
It's okay for someone to have a different opinion than you. And if it's on something that they're wrong about, the truth will come out in due time. It's okay to be wrong, it's okay to fuck up. So, for fuck's sake, accept that someone disagrees and move the fuck along.
Thank you and good night.