Oh, so proud of myself...

[radrluv69]

Happy to announce that I finally was able to get through the Sex & the City movie without getting incredibly depressed & upset. I was only slightly melancholy, namely to when the New Year's Eve montage came up. Carriet shows up @ Miranda's door, gives her a big hug and says, "You're not alone

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[meowbunnymeow]

Hun, you got to look at it from a different POV. This is the first year I "enjoy" being on my own, knowing I won't have the time/freedom to do whatever I want if I have the other half to think about. If there's no one good enough for me, sod it! That's one area I won't compromise... because I am worth it :p

New Year and V day is easy for me... my father's birthday's on New Year Eve and my mom? You guessed it, 14th Feb. I have th best excuse to stay home for both occasions. I can't stand V day anyway, too much cliche, too commercial, everyday's a V day if you love someone.

Note to self: Bunny must turn down guys way before getting into bed. Bad bad habit.

Stop reading female rom com fictions... they earn big bucks by making every single woman depressed... not fair!

[radrluv69]

You need to remember...it's been NINE YEARS. The first couple of years after my last relationship ended, I didn't want anyone to touch me. I mean, if "Bitter Betty" was in the dictionary, my picture would have been right next to the definition. And then once I got past that, I threw myself into my job and really didn't care that much. I just didn't have time for dating, so the fact that my dance card was always empty didn't concern me at all. I was content to be on my own, and I needed that time to really figure out who I was anyway

[meowbunnymeow]

Hey, so it's not 9 years, rather 2-3, as you were not ready at the time... when you are single, timing is never perfect. I bet we won't have this conversation if we were guys... It sounds sad, but I did take a peep at the elderly home in my neighbourhood. Bunny is too sensible until she met the boy. Usually by the time it's too late, they've already assume what kind of person I am :p It takes a while before people sees my crazy side (my poor mom never knows about)

I see what you mean about the similarities of SATC, but I was disappointed the whole storyline about Carrie getting married. My arse! That's so not what Carrie was... she's pain in the arse but why makes her so desperate for getting married? The gown? Or money security?? It's like they are trying to say: you suck if you can't find the one and sign the paper... Viva la Samantha! :p

[radrluv69]

I don't think I ever really saw it as a desperation to get married. Being an independent female in a long-term relationship is a lot more complicated than it used to be. Inidividual checking accounts, or joint? Is this yours or is this mine? Or is it ours? Tough choices to be made on an individual basis. Some women dont even bother with it. And for others it's like cutting off an arm. For me personally, marriage isn't even in the game plan. I don't need a ring on my finger when I've bought my own, and kids? No flippin' way. Nope, my need for partnership just comes from a want to adore the hell out of someone, and vice versa. It's not monetary, it's not about the biological clock, or any kind of desperation because the clock is ticking on my thirties.

I just want someone to love the hell out of, foibles and all. And to actually get it in return...for a *change*.

[wendies]

Awww come on. I love you. And the girls at MP_Daily love you. And I'm sure if Michael knew you, he would love you too. ;) you don't need a man to complete your life. I think you're a incredibly beautiful and wonderful person. And if no guy wants that-then he can go be off with some hussy. Cuz he's obviously not worth your time. :D

[radrluv69]

Oh, I've *never* said that I needed a man to complete me. Ever. Don't mistake this entry for that kind of talk, because then you'd be reading someone else's blog, not mine. But there does come a certain point in your life when you want to share. Or rather, need to.

[wendies]

Oh, Im sorry. My brain's just been messed up all day. Yeah I know what ya mean. :D But you know we're always here.

[navy_brat_1972]

I'm right there with you. 36, single, and NO OPTIONS in sight. *sigh* I told my mom it's why I fantasize about Michael Phelps. He CAN'T break my heart. I have my online journal (if you look at my profile, you'll find my 2BBridgetJones journal!) Not really meant to be, I guess.

But I've really been losing faith the whole notion of maybe it keeps happening because there's something much, much more bigger and better out there waiting for me.

Exactly. I've so completely lost faith in love. It only happens to other people and in the movies.

(I think these are the lyrics. I can't find the CD right now:

They're writing songs of love, but not for me, A simple star above, but not for me

But, you're not alone. I'm here...eljay and email. We can open a bottle of wine and lament our Bridget Jones (pre-Mark Darcy) lives. ;^? Okay? OKAY!

[radrluv69]

I'm not so sure that I would go as far to say that I've lost faith in love...I still have some faith, I don't think I've lost it entirely. I think that I lose faith more in people than I do in love. People disappoint you all the time, but love is what it is. It's just what you do with it that matters.

Oh yeah, that whole Mark Darcy/Daniel Cleaver thing...when it got to the fight out in the street, that was your reminder that you *were* watching a movie. BECAUSE THAT SHIT NEVER HAPPENS.

[meowbunnymeow]

I agree on the lose faith on people rather than love thing. Sometimes I see how disappointed/depressed people can be when they get into relationship trouble, maybe it's a blissing to be single in some level.

I am jealous of BJ cos she lives right next to the best food market in London!!!

[radrluv69]

I just think people enter into long-term realtionships and marriages too lightly these days. They don't anticipate the work. My grandmother married my grandfather at the age of 19, and was a mother of two by the time she was 21. She was married to my grandfather till he passed away in 1990, so they were married for 49 years. And my own folks just celebrated their 42nd anniversary this past September. I've seen the things my mother has gone through with my father, and sometimes the fact that she's still married to him shocks me. But that's what you do when you make the commitment. You commit to do with work to keep it together. If you're not ready to do the work, you shouldn't be shopping around for wedding dresses.

[__midnight__sun]

I know it's not exactly the same since I'm half your age, but I've never had anybody to speak of. It's been lonely seeing my friends having gone through those rites of passage while being stuck at the very beginning. But seeing such a strong, independent woman as yourself being single...it's almost inspirational. It kinda shows that you don't need a man to complete you...and it helps :)
(sorry if that's totally corny :D)

[radrluv69]

No, that's not corny at all. Actually, you don't sound much unlike myself at that age. I never had my first real boyfriend until I was 18, and that was *after* I graduated from high school @ 17. But the first b/f was rather short-lived (turned out to be a real bastard, actually), and I went through this period of a rotating door of guys till I was 20. Knowing what I know now, a pretty good chunk of those guys I had absolutely *no* business giving the time of day. But I was naive and inexperienced due to being such a late bloomer, so I made a lot of bad choices. I learned pretty quick. And then when I was 20, I met the guy who actually *showed* me how I should be and *deserved* to be treated. We only were together for 4 months, but those 4 months were like...*wow*. I would never let him know it, but my experiences with him literally started me on the road to figuring out who I was as a person. He changed my life.

That, and he was the guy who showed me what makes your eyes roll back in bed. HA!!!

[__midnight__sun]

I'm afraid of making bad decisions like that. I actually have a friend who's turning 20 in February and when we started college in the fall she slept with the first guy who she could get because she didn't want to be a 20-year-old virgin...now it's messy and she's really unhappy. I don't want that to be me. I thought I did find someone in my bio class (ha, I'm such a nerd) but the bastard didn't show up to the last class after I finally had worked myself up to making a move (I woke up early and everything to make myself gorgeous and instead of him, my bio professor notices...*so creepy!*).

Eyes roll back in bed, huh....? Where can I find one?! :)

[radrluv69]

But you know what, you'll never figure out if something is a bad decision unless you actually give it a try. It's not always the same outcome for everyone. I mean, I've been bounced on my ass a few good times, and getting up hasn't always been easy. But the trick is that even if you get hurt, find a lesson in what happened and keep it with you. I always knew that if all I did was avoid getting hurt, it would be so much more worse when I actually did. And that's just not living. Making choices that have bad outcomes is inevitable. It's what you do with the outcome is what matters

[tooh1999]

Wow you girls were busy last night! You all need to get out of my head, because you all pretty much covered what all the voices say to me every day