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Gay are hard to Understand
My observation of them
I am an open-minded person. As long as there are reasonable reasons, I will accept it.
Personally, I hate infidelity.
I hate it
Really really hate it
That is why, when it happened on J.Law and Kirio, I instantly hate the one who do it.
J.Law and Kirio are the first gay couple I know, It is a real people, unlike literature and manga I read.
I am instantly interested, they seems funny.
It felt like It has been long since I really liked them.
But nowadays, It feel like watching a boring soap opera over and over again.
I learn some things from them, most of them is about gay’s life:
- It is not as dramatic as I thought
- Gays are divided into classes
- They know each other
- Gays are lack in commitment
- Lust is more potent than love in relationship, thus sometime sleep with each other
- Usually Gays stuck together
- Appreciate beauty
- I would never understand gays?
Maybe those conclusions are biased, But it is from observation of J.Law, Kirio, and theirs friends.
Some of you might be thinking that I treated them as If they are aliens from another planet?
Well, I might…. My paradigm change a lot after my little observation. Because It felt like they are people who lived in different world? Am not saying they are not normal, They are normal people. But gays stuck together, they make their own community, which has the border that us, people with ordinary sexual orientation can’t enter. This community may be created through their interactions in (gay) bars. And usually it is divided into classes, which determined by their economic and social position. So people who are famous usually know each others, by social positions, etc.
They are lacking in commitment. I always wonder, because once when I entered a forum which consisted of Gays, It seems like that they sleep with each other, nevertheless, I am shocked to the bone. There are such things in this world!!! So I read some physiological book, the reasons is that guy (not necessary gay) are tend to have urge to cheated on his partner. While women may loyal for a lifetime , guys are not. So it is normal that Gay have sexual relationship even though they don’t have any emotional bonds. Cheated is a fair game, as long as their partner don’t know. I will take example from J.Law and Kirio:
- J.Law slept with Kirio’s best friend (one night stand)
- Kirio slept with J.Law’s friend for 3 and half an year (but still they don’t have emotional bond)
- Who know s if Kirio has slept around for who knows how long? Or maybe J.Law too?
They are not as dramatic as I thought. Being gay is not that life changing as I read in the novel. They cope with it pretty well, while in the books portrayed them suffer from being gay, some even commit suicide. Some even thinks gay is cool. Is it become a new trend? Others are pretty open being gays, shamelessly published their photos kissing, groping….. *speechless* If you are gay, it is your private matters, please don’t publish your photos posing like xxx dammit! Even normal people never do that!!!!
They appreciate beautiful things, Gays are very concerned with their looks (Hey! That don’t mean that Korean men are gays!) I would imagine gays are looking at mirror every second. LOL.
J.Law go out with Kirio because he likes cute boys, the next door boy type. Then fall in love. J.Law spent a lotta money in his looks (branded clothes, etc, etc)
Kirio spent a lotta money in his face (plastic surgery) LOL! He got a makeover in his face (all of it, not just the eyes as the rumors said)! Pretty shocking, right? I am shocked too! I will post about this in the other time! He love branded things (for one so young, He have a luxury lifestyle) Ahhh~ he is from after 90 generation (must be little emperor syndrome) LOL. For an example J.Law brought him 3 bags long time ago which approximately about 200.000 RMB (about 29000 US Dollars), clothes, shoes, watch, etc are branded. That is expensive lifestyle.
Finally, I would never understand gays. No matter how much I read physiological books, human nature ,etc , try to understand this phenomena better, it felt like it is so far away to accomplished it, for the time being I will stuck with my novels and mangas. The reality really too hard to accept, because I haven’t find all of the logical explanations yet!!!