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[nyecamden]

TW domestic violence
This headline really ticked me off. It's making a joke of men who experience DV from women. It's an example of how patriarchy adversely affects men; men who experience DV are prone to ridicule. This kind of shit makes it harder for men to report domestic violence. (I'm a feminist - I hope this doesn't come across as being in

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[gizzybiscuits]

See its funny because women are so weak and ineffectual that they cannot harm anyone ever, especially a manly man.

Blegh. On that note, don't watch Norbit.

[xenaeilonwy]

Sickening. I've been in SJ areas of the Internet where other women trivialize male victims of domestic abuse and/or tell them they must have deserved it somehow or go "No one cares" because y'know, they're men, and that's fucked up too. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment, regardless of gender.

[kittenmommy]

I've also seen male rape victims/survivors trivializes or outright ridiculed by LJ SJWs, and it's disgusting. There was even one discussion wherein it was stated that if a man was aroused, he wanted it. Seriously.

Now, imagine if someone said that about women.

[lilenth]

I think that's an over reaction caused by the amount of "whatabouttehmenz" that gets slung around a lot of the time. Not that I agree with it, I'm just saying there is a reason for the backlash.

If I had a dime for every time some guy felt that a discussion about rape, misogyny, and domestic abuse in feminist spaces wasn't acceptable unless it was all about male victims and male victims only, I would be able to afford to open and keep open hundreds of shelters for victims of any gender orientation.

I agree we shouldn't discount them and nobody deserves to be subject to violence or rape, I just wish quite a few men would realise that we don't need to talk about only male victims to tackle the underlying problem which is and will always be misogyny.

[xenaeilonwy]

I've never seen that in femspaces. I have seen men bring up male domestic/sexual abuse because well, they assume hey, this is a safespace and I have as much right to partake in it as these women, and then get attacked and get WHATABOUTTHEMENZZZZ yelled at them for just trying to get the support they deserve as much as every woman in the space does. I'm not saying what you said never happens, I'm just saying that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about when a man is genuinely trying to get support but just gets hollered at for "trivializing" when that's not what he is trying to do.