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[rahvin021]

If you're married and a man cheats on you - many times, it's not an "accident" - and you have a family

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[notcrzyjstbored]

you shouldn't have to be "strong" in that way if you're married. you're married, you made a vow, and so did he. and if he breaks his vow, that's your get the fuck out of jail free card. i'd leave and take my kids with me, provided medical, financial, and other circumstances allow it. i mean, if i don't have enough money to support myeslf and the kids and i'm not capable of working--i'll stay just to mooch. but you can bet he's never sexing me up again. asshole.

[trusting_fool]

I'd say leave. I think that if someone cheats, the relationship should end, with very few exceptions. So, that's the example I would want to set for my kids.

I don't know what I would actually do--I can only answer a hypothetical question with a hypothetical answer.

[lovelondon]

I would try to make it work, but if it is clear to me that my husband is just going to be an asshat and continue cheating on me, I would leave.

[crazyfirestar]

I would leave the moment it became clear that he wasn't willing or able to change.

[kumokasumi]

is it "stronger"
i don't think it makes sense to characterize either as being "stronger" than the other. (and jesus am i tired of people using the monica thing as an argument either for or against hillary as president.)

ultimately, it depends on everything. though i don't think someone putting themselves through a terminally unlivable situation out of a sense of obligation to someone else usually ends up doing anyone any favors. to thine own self be true.