Think Long

[raina583]

I worry about my friend F.
He started working here last summer and we've spoken almost constantly ever since. We've become really close.

He recently proposed to his girlfriend, but I can read him and I know that he's not particularly fond of her. I'm sure he loves her...I doubt he would lie about that, but I don't think he likes her very much. For

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[ironanacondress]

Hi! Thanks for adding me back!

I have a 7 month old son that I breastfeed. I don't understand a woman who doesn't want to do that. It's natural, it's FREE, and it's best for the baby and the mother. No stinky weirdo formula with crazy ingredients, mama loses baby weight much much quicker, and there's a special bond between the mother and baby. Does she think it's perverted for a calf to suckle on a cow's nipple? Or how about drinking cow's milk for that matter? Breastfeeding is EXTREMELY important and any woman who is adamently against it without ever even trying it has problems.

And that kind of insecurity is not healthy for her or for him. If she doesn't trust him enough to be able to hang out with anybody other than her, why does she want to marry him?

[raina583]

I'm not a mother, but I instinctively agree with everything you said! So does he...he explained it to her, but she's irrationally weirded-out by the idea.

She's cheated on everyone (but him, presumably) that she's been with, and he never has. I think she assumes everyone is like her.

He seems to realize that his sitaution is not so good...I hope he addresses it before it's too late!

[spiritofjoy]

She sounds really controlling. Have they been to premarital counseling? It sounds like they definitely have some issues to work out.

[raina583]

I don't think they have, but it sounds like a good idea!

[imafarmgirl]

It sounds doomed from the start.