I'm going to make this short and not even close to all of the things that I want to say. But I'm in school and I shouldn't be doing this in the first place
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I have already told both you and Sven what I think... but...
Being in a relationship where neither of you are actually happy and just constantly fight and argue isn't a healthy one to be in. Don't be in a relationship just to be in one. You two should seriously take a large amount of time apart. Thinking time and stuff... And only get back together when you reach a point where you resume making each other happy, instead of completely miserable. If that time never comes, then you two aren't meant to be together.. If it does, then congrats.
Oh and.. only listen to what I have to say.. DO what you feel is truly right.
okay now for the not so fun part: 1. Should I stay or Should I go? well chica that's really up to you. i don't know everythingthing that goes on in your relatonship so i don't feel my opinion should count for much. what i do know is this: a person can only put up with so much and if you truly want it to work out with a person you tend to be more tolerant than normal. however being selfish can be a good thing from time to time.
2. If I stay, How will things be better?communication (screaming/fighting doesn't count) i'm mean seriosly talking about your problems with each other. write him a letter if you have to so you guys won't get the urge to yell at each other.
3. If I leave, Will any of you guys still talk to me?most definitely. bros before hoes. XD (or in this case chickz before dickz)
something else: think about the last time you were happy. really happy. whatever gives you that feeling you should go for it. fuck what other people think of your decisions.
A passer-by.
anonymous
April 27 2004, 14:05:32 UTC
If you're breaking up with thoughts of someone other than you or him. You don't love him. If he's being this way because of someone other than you or himself. He doesn't love you. To let your friends control so much of your relationship isn't healthy. Keep it private. Keep it to yourselves, or it will never come easy. I personally think all relationships deserve 2nd chances. But who am I to say so? 2 quotes sum it all up nicely.
Sometimes love just ain't enough.
If his happiness matters more to you than your happiness, you love him. And vice versa.
Re: A passer-by.s0undjunkieApril 27 2004, 16:41:46 UTC
Ash is going to do what she feels is right and what will hopefully be the right decision. These are the kinds of things friends are for, to talk to about your problems and to ask advice from. She doesn't have to listen to us.
Re: A passer-by.mars_princessApril 28 2004, 07:45:34 UTC
if you're not bold enough to leave your name then you don't deserve to comment on star's journal. she might be too nice to tell you to back off but unfortunately for you i'm not so nice.
Honestly... if you really want to answer that second question, you would answer the first one with staying. :\ I mean.... who knows if it'll get better or not. I think staying would answer that. I think Sphen will get enough sense into him to not bug you or whatever he's doing after this. I think he has it in him right now. I can tell that he doesn't wanna break up...
And the third one... o.o If you do leave, I'll still talk to you when I see you places. :D Of course, if you wanna IM me, you can. :\ Only people I IM when I'm online is Jasmine, Joe, or Havana really... so you'll haveta do the honors. :o Good luck, Ashley-sama... *hugs*
I think you guys need a niiiice, loooong break. Break up, or just break. You've dated long enough. It's time to broaden your horizons and start looking at other people. I mean, you guys are still kids! It's not like you're married. You have forever to figure out the kind of person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
Even if you're POSITIVE that Sphen is the one, then at least make ABSOLUTELY SURE, and date some other people... validate yourself.
And of course I'll still talk to you if you guys do break up! You're friends are there for you regardless of your boyfriend. Bfs come and go, but your ladies will always love you.
I love you Ash, I hope this doesn't sound too harsh... :\ GOOD LUCK with everything, with Sphen and your decisions and all... I'm here for you if you need me. <333
someone had to say itmars_princessApril 27 2004, 16:56:22 UTC
i'm so glad you said I mean, you guys are still kids! It's not like you're married. You have forever to figure out the kind of person you want to be with for the rest of your life. i was going to but i don't think i'm that good of a friend to say stuff like that. i dunno. i'm just weird like that.
while i'm on an insult rant craze.. incase u havn't read my comment back to u on my journal yet...
Why don't you and Joseph break for awhile and look at other people.. since you seem so keen on the idea... i mean.. you never know.. you are still a kid...
just thought i would bring that to your attention...
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Being in a relationship where neither of you are actually happy and just constantly fight and argue isn't a healthy one to be in. Don't be in a relationship just to be in one. You two should seriously take a large amount of time apart. Thinking time and stuff... And only get back together when you reach a point where you resume making each other happy, instead of completely miserable. If that time never comes, then you two aren't meant to be together.. If it does, then congrats.
Oh and.. only listen to what I have to say.. DO what you feel is truly right.
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okay now for the not so fun part:
1. Should I stay or Should I go? well chica that's really up to you. i don't know everythingthing that goes on in your relatonship so i don't feel my opinion should count for much. what i do know is this: a person can only put up with so much and if you truly want it to work out with a person you tend to be more tolerant than normal. however being selfish can be a good thing from time to time.
2. If I stay, How will things be better?communication (screaming/fighting doesn't count) i'm mean seriosly talking about your problems with each other. write him a letter if you have to so you guys won't get the urge to yell at each other.
3. If I leave, Will any of you guys still talk to me?most definitely. bros before hoes. XD (or in this case chickz before dickz)
something else: think about the last time you were happy. really happy. whatever gives you that feeling you should go for it. fuck what other people think of your decisions.
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Sometimes love just ain't enough.
If his happiness matters more to you than your happiness, you love him. And vice versa.
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And the third one... o.o If you do leave, I'll still talk to you when I see you places. :D Of course, if you wanna IM me, you can. :\ Only people I IM when I'm online is Jasmine, Joe, or Havana really... so you'll haveta do the honors. :o Good luck, Ashley-sama... *hugs*
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Even if you're POSITIVE that Sphen is the one, then at least make ABSOLUTELY SURE, and date some other people... validate yourself.
And of course I'll still talk to you if you guys do break up! You're friends are there for you regardless of your boyfriend. Bfs come and go, but your ladies will always love you.
I love you Ash, I hope this doesn't sound too harsh... :\ GOOD LUCK with everything, with Sphen and your decisions and all... I'm here for you if you need me. <333
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Why don't you and Joseph break for awhile and look at other people.. since you seem so keen on the idea... i mean.. you never know.. you are still a kid...
just thought i would bring that to your attention...
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