I consider myself an agnostic...I am spiritual in my own way, mostly in the Gaia hypothesis way.
I have told my family I want a Viking funeral, the type where the deceased is placed on a ship, sent out to sea then set on fire.
None of this planting in the ground for my remains. *shudders* In fact, I will have to put my wishes in my will since I do not trust my hubby to abide by my wishes...it is really the only thing we've ever argued about. :)
The Viking funeral is a cool idea. And yeah, making sure your wishes are known is a good idea. I'm not sure yet what I'd want, but it definitely wouldn't be anything like the guy at my grandpa's funeral. Not that my grandpa would have liked what that guy said either, when I was talking to my mom about it later, she said that he'd been an atheist. I think for the funeral they just picked the same guy who'd done my step-grandma's funeral.
Sounds like you had a bad minister... the graveside service is to comfort loved ones... although after hitting the age of questioning faith, a lot of stuff sounds more 'preachy' than it used to.
I've heard of a few funeral/memorials doing that over the past few years. One I recall had a minister playing with details to make the death from leukemia sound peaceful, but my ex-wife, who was there, got so mad about this guy's lies that she never spoke to the deceased's family again.
I'm sorry about your friend. So far I've been lucky enough to have not had any friends die, and family members have been much older relatives I wasn't really *that* close to. I don't know how I'll handle it when it is someone closer to me, and closer to my age.
Getting together with a friend sounds like a much better way to remember them than a funeral service that makes you uncomfortable.
I think that same guy spoke at my friend's funeral a few years ago. Not really, but this guy did not even mention my friend or acknowledge that it was anything other than his personal sermon-time. It was upsetting.
There is nothing wrong with not having any beliefs. Is there any particular reason you need to tell your family?
Even though I follow the religion of the ancient Egyptians, I don't see any reason to be embalmed. It's just not practical in this place and time. I want to donate every bit of my body that could be of possible use to anyone, then whatever is left over burned and...oh I dunno...maybe the ashes made into pretty beads so people can wear me. :)
I'd just feel a bit more comfortable knowing that my family knows, and that it's not a big deal. Not that it will be, and I did tell my mom what I thought of the funeral the next day. But at least then there won't be any surprises when, for example, I have a totally secular wedding someday.
I think I'd want the same thing for my remains, only have the ashes scattered somewhere pretty.
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I have told my family I want a Viking funeral, the type where the deceased is placed on a ship, sent out to sea then set on fire.
None of this planting in the ground for my remains. *shudders* In fact, I will have to put my wishes in my will since I do not trust my hubby to abide by my wishes...it is really the only thing we've ever argued about. :)
Oh, and Happy Birthday a couple of days early!
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And thanks on the birthday wishes! :)
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Getting together with a friend sounds like a much better way to remember them than a funeral service that makes you uncomfortable.
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There is nothing wrong with not having any beliefs. Is there any particular reason you need to tell your family?
Even though I follow the religion of the ancient Egyptians, I don't see any reason to be embalmed. It's just not practical in this place and time. I want to donate every bit of my body that could be of possible use to anyone, then whatever is left over burned and...oh I dunno...maybe the ashes made into pretty beads so people can wear me. :)
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I think I'd want the same thing for my remains, only have the ashes scattered somewhere pretty.
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