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[raiva]

I get asked sometimes why I don't trust people. In fact I've had friends give me the injured puppy face when they've asked if I trust them completely and I say no. I wonder sometimes if they understand that part of the reason I don't trust people is because they, for the most part, aren't reliable. Of course some of it has to to with my childhood

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[empathy_man]

This has me wondering... If I promised no "injured puppy" faces, what % roughly would you say I rate at in the reliablity-o-meter?

[raiva]

Keep in mind that for me trust isn't just "you'll be there when I want to talk" it's also showing up when you say you will and doing things you say you're going to do. It does also include the big things like not betraying me (which I actually had done to me when I was a kid).
Since I don't know you/hang out with you often I'd say 75-80% I know you'd never do anything really mean on purpose but I still don't have that feeling of complete trust. Man I really feel bad when I think of the dumb reasons why I don't trust people

[empathy_man]

*hugs* Its ok, I know what its like ot be betrayed. And dont feel bad about your reasons. Weither or not you feel them to be dumb it doesnt change taht they are your reasons and thats good enough.

[shell_bella]

Mel they aren't dumb ass reasons. There reasons which make you protect yourself. Thats why it kills me to let you down. I hate doing it because I know it hurts you, and thats the last thing I want to do, ever. Thats why I've only been trying to do things I know I can do and not promise things that I know might to will not happen.
Trust is a thing which can be earned and lost. Its all about your expereicnce with people and their interaction with you.