However, as humans, categorization and grouping is inherent in how our brains work. Just gotta be aware that the model we build is not the reality.
Randy, I've flipped from introvert to extrovert, and other points on my Meyers-Briggs are shifting too -- so yeah, it's possible to change, but there is also anxiety attached as well.
We are what we are for good reasons (that may be defunct, from the past, but still, at the time, it made sense), so as we peel back the layers, the old rust and cruft and gunk gets exposed, and exfoliating that stuff can be a miserable experience.
You could be a switch. I used to always play the leo leader, now I switch it up, usually letting others lead if they show any interest in it and only stepping up in the rare cases when it seems my help is needed or I'm really inspired. It's lead me to a life of less responsibility, trusting in others, and other goodness.
There's also no reason that anyone needs to be an asshole to be a leader. There are beautiful ways of leading through compassion, understanding what makes people tick and showing them the way through their unique desires.
You were right...random_stabsSeptember 15 2012, 04:50:49 UTC
It's funny how I'm reading this three years later... You were right. I am a switch. I think I'm going to make it a point of listening to you more. No, that's not right... give your words more weight than they already have.
Change for the sake of change isn't always the best. Positive assessment/acceptance of your multifaceted characteristics is usually the best. Also, extroverted doesn't necessarily have to imply alpha. People have all kinds of judgments and assumptions about what it means to follow. I hope that you can express your authentic you-ness uninfluenced by societies' judgments of what beta (or alpha for that matter) implies.
I do have reasons for this... it's not just on a whim. There are lots of situations in life where it's good to be comfortable asserting yourself: relationships, careers, etc. Alphas seem to do this naturally.
I can think of several times in my life where things could have been improved, or even the impossible made possible, if I had been able to do that with ease. Among men, being uncomfortable or hesitant about asserting yourself is noticed... and it is generally perceived as weakness.
The second part of this, as I see it, is knowing when to use it. Using it all the time generally makes you look like an asshole, and I definitely don't want that.
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Randy, I've flipped from introvert to extrovert, and other points on my Meyers-Briggs are shifting too -- so yeah, it's possible to change, but there is also anxiety attached as well.
We are what we are for good reasons (that may be defunct, from the past, but still, at the time, it made sense), so as we peel back the layers, the old rust and cruft and gunk gets exposed, and exfoliating that stuff can be a miserable experience.
Good luck!
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There's also no reason that anyone needs to be an asshole to be a leader. There are beautiful ways of leading through compassion, understanding what makes people tick and showing them the way through their unique desires.
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After all these years, I have to ask, where did you find that icon you use for your profile pic?
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I can think of several times in my life where things could have been improved, or even the impossible made possible, if I had been able to do that with ease. Among men, being uncomfortable or hesitant about asserting yourself is noticed... and it is generally perceived as weakness.
The second part of this, as I see it, is knowing when to use it. Using it all the time generally makes you look like an asshole, and I definitely don't want that.
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