Qualities: kind, intelligent, supportive, creative, hard working, shared morals, commonality, good moral character, and chemistry. And being my type in physique.
I desire someone I don't need to explain things to using small words and diagrams, and someone who respects the incredible concept that I needn't believe in all of their ideas and values as if that were the only right way of thinking, as I might - just maybe - have some ideas of my own that work for me. Logic, intelligence, and no insane entitlement complexes. Also, initiative, since I'm not actually bothering trying to find this person. Or going to "social" places because they bore me. Yeah...
Intellectual is most important - emotional; well, I don't want them to be too emotional/hysterical - sexual compatibility is always good. I think I focus more on intellectual but inadequacy in any area is a problem. I deal well with INTPs and other INTJs usually. I'm entertained by extraverts (pref rationals) but they tend to be too tiring. And I don't like other people being arrogant, although I am so myself sometimes....
My partner is an ENFP. I do not have wide enough experience to seriously comment by type, but NF, esp. NFP, NT, and possible SFP seem to be the most likely possibilities. I'll let you infer the complement.
All those components are important.
I did not specifically follow a strategy to find individuals with such qualities. I actually did find my partner via the internet with a substantial "chance" component involved.
I can, however, say with certainty that SJs and I don't work together at all. While I've had SJ men who were initially intrigued by me, and attracted my unconventional way of life, they didn't respect it. Every last one of them ended up uncomfortable with and embarrassed by the very qualities that attracted them in the first place, and in one way or another each of them tried to make me "grow up," "act normal," "behave myself," or otherwise turn me into their idea of a suitable female. Plus, they tended (as a group) not to be very good in bed--reciprocity was not a strong point
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The qualities I look for are common interests, similar sense of humour, intelligence, honesty, tolerance, loyalty and ability to understand and accept me for who I am. Strangely enough, I haven't met many people who meet all these criteria
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Worst- any and every Sensor.
Qualities: kind, intelligent, supportive, creative, hard working, shared morals, commonality, good moral character, and chemistry. And being my type in physique.
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Also, initiative, since I'm not actually bothering trying to find this person. Or going to "social" places because they bore me. Yeah...
Intellectual is most important - emotional; well, I don't want them to be too emotional/hysterical - sexual compatibility is always good. I think I focus more on intellectual but inadequacy in any area is a problem.
I deal well with INTPs and other INTJs usually. I'm entertained by extraverts (pref rationals) but they tend to be too tiring. And I don't like other people being arrogant, although I am so myself sometimes....
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All those components are important.
I did not specifically follow a strategy to find individuals with such qualities. I actually did find my partner via the internet with a substantial "chance" component involved.
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I can, however, say with certainty that SJs and I don't work together at all. While I've had SJ men who were initially intrigued by me, and attracted my unconventional way of life, they didn't respect it. Every last one of them ended up uncomfortable with and embarrassed by the very qualities that attracted them in the first place, and in one way or another each of them tried to make me "grow up," "act normal," "behave myself," or otherwise turn me into their idea of a suitable female. Plus, they tended (as a group) not to be very good in bed--reciprocity was not a strong point ( ... )
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