The Revolution

[ratspy]

For most of the last six+ years I was expected to hide any sadness I experienced as weakness, to suppress it and deal with it silently. With my fighting friends of little utility in this regard and my intimate companion forever judgmental there was no source of comfort in my life whenever I was feeling poorly, only a clearly stated understanding

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Friendship.

[justaputz]

One of the good things about friends is you should be able to show your true feelings. Shared feelings can help with the lows and also make the highs even better!

[ratspy]

(Hard for me to keep short, I could rant on)

One of the many catch-22s I’ve been considering lately involves that. The “attraction” I mentioned was more in terms of human social/emotional attraction, mainly(but not exclusively) in reference to friends. Therefore, as helpful as friends can be with the highs and lows, sadness also tends to often drive friends away.

Some would say this works as a good litmus test, but the particulars of this sort of thing are too alien to me to agree with that with certainty. If someone doesn’t want to be around sad/”perceived-as-weak” people, does that automatically make them a bad friend? They may have their own reasons.

All I can really say is that I have to be true to myself because repression has more negative consequences which are harmful to the spirit, especially long term repression, so if that tends to repel certain people - and it does/will - then so be it. First, attend to the self.