Bisexuality Rant

[raynala]

As a bisexual girl, I like to think I’ve got the best of both worlds. I am very happy with my philosophy that people love people, regardless of gender. The way I see it, some people have a “type.” You know, brown hair, nice teeth, sense of humor, love of video games… in my totally unscientific and unsupported-by-any-evidence-at-all kind-of world, a

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[annenihilate]

The second and last of your bulleted points have applied to me, since I figured out what sexuality even was.
I've always thought it was quite normal to be attracted to both sexes and I still continue to find it strange that homosexuals, bisexuals, etc, are being discriminated against. Why does it matter who someone else is attracted to? Sure, a man and a woman are the only ones that can produce a baby "naturally", but what about all those people complaining about over-population? I think homosexual couples help out in that they adopt children or just don't have any kids of their own, instead of creating more.

I've never flaunted my bisexuality because I don't like people telling me "Oh, you're just saying that for attention" and I have never once made out with a girl in public just to gain attention from guys. I don't make out with guys in public much, either, because I have a bit of distaste for overly agressive PDA. And I just plain don't make out with people I'm not in a relationship with, regardless

[raynala]

Yeah, I'm always surprised when people are surprised by my bisexuality. lol

3.2 would make you homosexual but incidentally heterosexual. Haha.

[juushika]

I feel like I have to say this to folk all the damn time. And it's all true, and this is a particularly well-written, straightforward version of that long speech/rant. Hopefully someone learns from it because goodness knows: there's lots of people that ought.

[raynala]

Thank you, sweetie. You being such a good writer yourself, I'm flattered that you think this was well-written! :)

[zatanna]

I'm glad you speak out on this. I feel bisexual girls get the worst of it [I know] because we might be 'doing it for attention'. People like Katy Perry and her I Kissed A Girl songs bring negative sterotypes that DO effect us in the long run. I've never spoke candidly about my personal bisexuality, but if someone asks; I tell. I've never been ashamed of it, unless people give me reason to. Even then, I'm over it in a few minutes because who are they to me? They're not my lover, my partner or my soulmate. They're just someone judging.

[raynala]

As catchy as "I Kissed a Girl" is, I boycotted listening to it for months because of its implications. I got over it and I love it now, but it's crazy how negatively people look down on us for things like that.

[schizo_niko]

Yes. Very much yes. Word

[juushika]

And so it drives me crazy when people say that it's a "choice"; sure, you can choose to pretend, or choose to be loud and proud, or choose to ignore your instincts, but you don't wake up one day and say "I think I'll be bi today because it sounds like fun." I'm of the opinion that it is pretty fun, haha, but I didn't "decide" to be that way. I just always was.I chose to be bisexual. I chose because I'm a woman who's approximately 70%/30% attracted to men/women and I'm in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. To an outsider, I look perfectly heteronormative, just another straight girl dating a straight guy. Instead, I chose to be bisexual—so maybe my initial attraction to female-bodied individuals is hardwired, but almost any expression of that attraction is a conscious, intentional action and revealing my sexual orientation to others is likewise an intentional choice

[yamakasi]

word. you mentioned all the things that irk me, especially noting the discrimination we face from both sides -- i've been told by gays, lesbians AND straights that bisexuality is not a valid sexuality. :/

i must say though, i have some issues with the Kinsey scale hah. but other than that your rant is pretty much what i've been saying for years and it is wonderful and so are you and i shall mem this. ♥

[yamakasi]

also -- teehee, APA formatting of references. :D /dork