Comments | razil: How do you maintain your long distance friendships?

razil

How do you maintain your long distance friendships?

Apr 13, 2005 16:44

I am fortunate that five of my best friends stumbled into my life my freshman year of college. We have had our ups and downs, as individuals and as a group, but overall these friendships are among the most important in my life. Across oceans and time zones, new and dissolving relationships, marriages and babies, new jobs and professional ( Read more... )

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txbelladonna April 13 2005, 22:07:38 UTC

I have the freakish luck of having friends that float in and out without the time or distance seeming to matter.

That said. I love email. LOVE IT. Ryan tends to get loud so sometimes the phone is just hard. Email is quick and painless.

razil April 14 2005, 17:30:40 UTC

I was a kick-ass letter writer when I was living in Africa with no TV and no computer. Now, I'm just lazy. I mean, it's April and I still haven't written my holiday thank you notes. Awful, awful, awful.

That said, I love letters, so will send you my address forthwith. And, I will even endeavor to write back in a timely manner.

aroraborealis April 13 2005, 22:16:18 UTC

Frankly, I suck at this. I intend to be better, but... I suck. I do best when it's easy: irc, livejournal, etc. Email is second best. I love talking on the phone, but finding the time can be hard, especially once things have slipped a bit because then to catch up, a phone conversation starts to be daunting just to catch up on the last few months...

I'm trying to figure this out because I'd like to hang on to my good friends as I move through life...

catya April 13 2005, 22:21:42 UTC

What she said, except that i don't like talking on the phone. :-/

razil April 14 2005, 17:43:58 UTC

Yep. I'm so with you. Email tends to be my default since it's easier to spend a few lines glibly bringing someone up to date on the last year or so of life rather than picking up the phone without the convenient excuse of "I've been out of the country, you see ( ... )

lcohen April 14 2005, 17:42:52 UTC

i don't have a group of friends like this per se, so it is all individual maintenance ( ... )

razil April 14 2005, 18:00:15 UTC

This group is unique in that it is a group; other friends from college, grad school, peace corps, etc. are superscattered and all the harder to keep in touch with. For being such a retiring young thing through high schoolish age, I certainly piled on the "friends that I really want to keep in touch with" in the years since ( ... )