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realize

grey

Jan 05, 2006 03:53

Im borderline pessimistic and optimistic about our relationship. Optimisitic to be hopefull and patient. Pessimistic to hide my own insecurities. Doing and saying to put your all into everything is tough because of expectations that hard effort will bring fullfillment of personal desires. But it don't at times and that's whats tough. Keep ( Read more... )

life, stress, love, setbacks

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richtermom January 5 2006, 15:29:53 UTC

She's gorgeous and she looks like a lot of fun.

I'm an old married lady, so can I chime in? In a long-term relationship, yes, there are going to be times you have to hide insecurities to get through a tough spot, but part of being together means also allowing your vulnerability to come through when you can. It doesn't mean "nonstop whine fest" but yeah, you're there for each other to support each other, whether it means something as monstrously hellish as fucking WAR or if it's facing some completely new, weird, scary situation like a civilian job hunt or learning new methods of communication to make your marriage work.

The lyrics are really hopeful, and that's awesome. Stay strong.

realize January 7 2006, 00:38:07 UTC

Thank you for the advice. Its been pretty rough being in the military. The total time we actually got to live together was only a month. These two deployments have been torture for both of us. Thats what i love about her. Her patience and resilience to stay strong when im gone. When im back she will actually get to stay and live with me for a longer period of time. I think that time will determine a lot for us and how we get along. Im glad you like the song. I love positive music. Sounds like you've been through a lot. How long have you been married?

1nitalifeknittr January 7 2006, 03:37:29 UTC

You and your wife look cute together, like you guys were meant to be. I truly believe in the whole carpe diem thing, but sometimes it does take more work to get over insecurities. I'm not an impulsive person, but I did something with the one I love that I never thought I would do. I don't regret it one bit, but I have to admit it takes a lot of hardwork. Sorry I can't go into details here, but just want to wish you the best. Take care of yourself.