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Aug 18, 2004 07:24

I have often been referred to by a friend as the voice of reason. Most likely because I turn things over in my mind for a long while before I jump to conclusions. I've been the sounding board to, in theory, help a friend not be unreasonable. I tend to be pretty good at seeing and understanding more than just one side of a situation ( Read more... )

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... nocturnalfright August 18 2004, 08:08:28 UTC

You are not the only person that has done one or two of the things mentioned. The eating thing...I have said MANY times that it is one thing if I offer food (and I realize that not everyone comes empty handed...most people don't, actually), but there are a few people as of late that are expecting to be fed upon every visit to the house, and that is rude and unfair. Think what you will, but if you were in housing and being accused of "recent dog harboring" (I got bitched at for the cats too, but I do in fact have kitties on my back porch...and I haven't had a dog in here in months), running an unsanctioned business, possibly having spouse/partner swapping parties (the only thing that saved me there is that my manager knew without a doubt that Fabian isn't deployed, whereas the neighbors claimed I was engaging in "questionable, possibly sexual activities ivolving a large group of people" while my husband was deployed). I do not wish to be, nor can we afford to be, kicked out of quarters. I cannot risk having security called on an ( ( ... )

.... nocturnalfright August 18 2004, 08:11:29 UTC

And incidentally, the ONLY rule that remotely pertained to Rick was "no outside animals in". I said that before my meeting, because I don't need to deal with any more crap like I am now with the mites. I did also mention, in that post, that there would be a few notable exceptions (such as K and her dogs....until the meeting happened, I'd have had no problems with her pups coming over).

-J

.... nocturnalfright August 18 2004, 08:22:30 UTC

Nor did I say that I disapproved of anything. I made rules according to the complaints made to the housing office, not MY feelings...again, with the exception of "no outside animals in", and the couch rule, and the "My mom won't buy me food, can I eat here" BS (which has nothing to do with you, BTW, or most of my other friends either). I came right back to the manager about the neighbors across and a little ways down from me that have that big dog in all the time. I raised hell about the fact that parking is simply bad in front of my house, and that no one can really park safely there, as the lot is too small. I threw a fit about the fact that the neighbors that complained are nosey, misinformed, and merely trying to cause trouble. These neighbors have also complained that "the volume of noise from" my house is "too loud at almost all hours of the day and night". We all kinow that is BS too, as the ONLY time we have gotten "out of hand" was the night of the taco wrapper fight, when the neighbor asked us to keep it down. Ironically, ( ... )

but you're correct... nocturnalfright August 18 2004, 13:44:28 UTC

One does pertain to you. I had to answer questions that Hunter and Xane asked, and that sucked. I'll not state here what specifically was asked, but I was most unhappy that it even came up. It is one thing to put me in an awkward position, which I accepted willingly, but totally another to place my kids in an awkward position. I'd say that issue is the only one that stemmed from how I was feeling. Sometimes it is easier for me to write things down, rather than say them ( ... )

... nocturnalfright August 18 2004, 13:47:43 UTC

Rather, let me clarify...I could have perhaps worked through the callousness and disregard you showed me and mine, but coupled with the appalling accusations, no thank you. I can't see you, in my place, doing so either.

-J

Re: ... realwomanchild August 18 2004, 14:55:03 UTC

That's just what I mean. In all honesty, yes, Xane has awakened in the night many times when I was there, and to the best of my recollection he never saw anything untoward. I could be wrong. Thats the thing about me, it's fairly easy for me to admit when I could be mistaken. I can think of exactly once that Hunter ever saw anything, and when I say anything, you and I both know that means me hugging and kissing goodbye (totally tastefully) a man not my husband. It made me incredibly uncomfortable. I remember telling you I was unsure of how to handle that situation. When I was getting ready to leave, and Hunter was upstairs, I said to you, I don't know if he will ask you about this, but if he does, you can answer him however you may think it best ( ... )

Re: ... nocturnalfright August 18 2004, 15:45:59 UTC

Perhaps what I perceived as callousness was in fact discomfort/nervousness. I know all too well about people incorrectly perceiving my moods and behavior, so it totally stands to reason that I incorrectly perceived what you were feeling/going through ( ... )

Re: ... realwomanchild August 18 2004, 17:39:38 UTC

And its fine to feel that way, and you have heard me say many times in the past, even if no one intended you to feel that way, because you do, it's a valid feeling and has to be handled as such. I'm sorry to have ever put you in an uncomfortable position, that was never my intent. However, it happened, and there is no way that can be changed. I'm sorry if you ever questioned if my being at your house was to see you or just to use your home. Before I moved, I let everyone know that all of my visits with everyone were going to be consolidated to 2 days a week, gas money aside, that is a killer drive. It had always been a given that unless otherwise stated, those visits would mean seeing you and Fabian too, because I enjoyed being around the both of you. It never mattered to me whether we hung out at your house or went somewhere else. I never really cared. All of that is irrelevant. I'm sorry if you ever felt at anytime that I was taking advantage of your kindness and generosity. From the bottom of my heart, I mean that.

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