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papermoonriver in reclaiming_sex

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Apr 26, 2009 14:48

First of all, I want to thank everyone for stopping by. I suppose I will begin with a very brief history of myself and why I chose to create this community.

I am a former evangelical Christian. Though I was not brought up in church, I converted ("got saved") to Christianity within the Southern Baptist Church at 13. I was very devoted to my faith ( Read more... )

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hey__itsrachel April 26 2009, 20:17:57 UTC

Yay! I'm really happy to be here. This is such a great idea for a community.

papermoonriver April 26 2009, 21:38:13 UTC

Thanks! I'm glad you're here, and really glad for all the positive responses.

kisekileia April 26 2009, 20:52:27 UTC

Thank you for making this community. I'm also an ex-evangelical, though I've become a liberal Anglican rather than totally non-Christian, and I've been looking for a long time for resources on the topic of reclaiming your sexuality from repressive religion.

cuzmickeyluvsya April 26 2009, 21:05:22 UTC

I was raised Catholic and like you, I met my husband and had sex before we married. Granted, he was the only guy I had ever let get close to me in that aspect. Months after we married my sexual desire started to diminish. I no longer was interested and had no desire to continue.

I'm still trying to figure out whether religion played a major role in my sexual repression. maybe it has to do with the fact that throughout my teenage years I vowed to never have sex until I married, seeing as many friends around me were either getting pregnant or some sort of std. I don't know, but I do know that I really want to have a healthy sex life.

Thank you for this community,

papermoonriver April 27 2009, 05:46:13 UTC

Thank you so much for your willingness to participate. I'm still trying to figure mine out as well. It seems too bold to blame it all on religious repression, but I have to acknowledge its major role in my development. I'm still with my husband, and not only am I dealing with issues with interest in sex, my husband has difficulty with his self-esteem in bed. It's no fun to be with someone who is so rarely satisfied. The more members who show up here, and the more responses I get, the more I believe in the importance of this issue and that so many people have been dying to talk about what it means to them.

shy_nerthuserce April 26 2009, 21:39:17 UTC

My hang-ups regarding sex are, I suppose, arrived at one-step removed from Christianity inasmuch as it was very much my very Christian grandmother and others who instilled in me that sexual feelings etc were very wrong, and also from my [less religious] parents. I'm very glad this community is here! :¬)

So are you better off? goodchristian April 26 2009, 22:02:08 UTC

Religion has made what God created as good and made it into something evil. I am not surprised you took a 180 and embraced all sexual liberation as good because the church never taught you sex is great between a married man and woman. They probably never adequately explained to you the healthy balance between godly sex and the risks of premarital sex. The church did not explain the reasons why you should abstain, except, it you didn't it was bad ( ... )

Re: So are you better off? skirmish_of_wit April 26 2009, 22:16:25 UTC

I don't know papermoonriver at all, but this comment isn't really helpful. Simply saying "married sex is awesome!" doesn't help people overcome the years of training telling them that sex is dirty and sinful.

There is a healthy balance and it is taught to us in the pages of Scripture

Where, exactly, does the bible have specific instructions for how to enjoy sex and what exactly that healthy balance is? Especially given that one couple's "healthy balance" is another couple's "boring and stifling" and someone else's "over-the-top and kinky"?

What exactly DOES Scripture have to say about sex?

how does it feel to know your husband has enjoyed the soft, supple vaginas of other women before he met and married you? Think about that for awhile.

LMAO it sure sounds like you have been! Troll?

Re: So are you better off? papermoonriver April 26 2009, 22:24:23 UTC

Wow, you were fast! I expected to have at least figured out how to ban people before the trolls started showing up. Obviously, as the issues expressed in this community are not issues that you or your wife deal with personally, this is not the place for you. You bring up several points and accusations, but as this is not a debate community I feel no need to address them. Thank you for your input and for stopping by, but comments like that are not welcome here.