Comments | reclaiming_sex: Mod message... so soon!

papermoonriver in reclaiming_sex

Mod message... so soon!

Apr 26, 2009 17:32

Please note: goodchristian has been banned. I hope would be trolls and any one else who attacks members here take good note of this. Even if you have good intentions but show up solely for the purpose of undermining the message of this community, similar action will be taken. I'm all for a great debate, but this is not a debate community. This is a place ( Read more... )

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indiefishsteak April 28 2009, 16:13:47 UTC

i just joined, but wanted to say that in order for me to feel comfortable sharing/healing/forming a community with people who are dealing with the same shit, i don't think i can deal with other kinds of people who make me defensive and outright angry. it's not easy sharing this w/ understanding people. and feeling like someone is going to attack me is what i get everywhere else. i love the idea of a community that is meant for healing and support, even if there is a challenge to the way i think that's fine. but if i feel like all i am doing is defending myself (yes i've had this experience in too many communities and am now a little jaded and cynical) then i don't know if i can feel comfortable enough to share openly.

so yeah, freedom of speech is great, but if there is a particular point to a community, i'd rather have a good amount of moderation to keep it on point and feeling safe enough to actually discuss that point. if that makes sense...

papermoonriver April 28 2009, 20:09:35 UTC

I completely understand where you are coming from. Starting this community is actually my first step toward speaking out about this. The thought of having to confront people who want to tell me that I deserve what I am dealing with because of sin, or like you sait just generally having to defend myself, that's going to be enough to make me just rather keep my mouth shut anyway.

The point of this community is, it doesn't matter what is in your past, it doesn't matter why you are here. What matters is for all of us to find a way to experience the gift of sexuality in the way that is the most fulfilling to us by letting go of whatever it is from our past that is holding us back.

Thank you for sharing your voice. I'm going to do everything I can to help this community to grow into an active and safe space for us, which it looks like is going to involve some heavy moderation. You should never feel like you have to defend yourself here.

gelishan May 2 2009, 02:26:21 UTC

I would like to heartily thank you for banning that poster-- I found his commentary not only rude but triggering.

papermoonriver May 2 2009, 03:42:23 UTC

Thanks for your support. Yeah, there just wasn't any place for that kind of crap around here. I think he's just a poor guy with a dark soul and sadly, he's taken his soap box that was free with the purchase of his recent conversion.

As an aside, I adore your icon. It's gorgeous. I'm an aspiring henna artist myself. Hopefully now that school is over I can focus more on that. Are you an artist or do you just like the aesthetic?

gelishan May 2 2009, 12:00:07 UTC

Just like the aesthetic, I'm afraid-- the only sorts of visual art I'm good at have to do with string. And thank you! I'm not a hundred percent sure where the original image came from, but the icon itself was actually made by my first SO ever: I wish I could credit it better, but I have no idea where they are now to even ask.