Yikes! Has he ever lived on his own before? That does sound excessively ridiculous... Like he expects you to do it all? What would happen if you just stopped doing anything ? Like, completely - to the point where if he wanted to eat he'd have to clean something. Would he be happy to live that way or would he find it nasty? Hopefully the latter, because then I think you have some working territory. There are always things you won't agree on, but it's how you're able to work it out that matters... (easier said than done, I know)
He has never lived with a woman before, only men. His last house with his 3 guy friends was sooooo disgusting and I made the false assumption that it was an accumulative grossness and not just one of them. I've tried the let everything pile up until there are fruit flies but it's just not the way I want to live. And it's really not fair. When we moved from our old place he made a huge production about how cleaning "was the easiest thing in the fucking world" so I've taken him to task about it and still get nothing. Its crap.
I am completely unable to help in this category. I do all the housework, all the laundry, all the grocery shopping (he volunteered to groecery shop with me tonight and it was impossible to breathe with him nagging me about getting anything that was not on the list regardless of how much we needed it). I walk the dog twice a day; I do all the dusting, the vacuuming, the washing of the car, the paying of the bills, the booking of doctors' appointments, the mopping, the collecting of mail. I do the banking, cut his hair, call his family to say "Happy Birthday" or "Happy New Year" or whatever someone is celebrating. I do the banking, applying for work (for him), and ... well you get the picture. Oh, and yeah he works 2 days a week and I work full time +. So yeah, I can't give you any advice in this area at all. I suck.
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What would happen if you just stopped doing anything ? Like, completely - to the point where if he wanted to eat he'd have to clean something. Would he be happy to live that way or would he find it nasty? Hopefully the latter, because then I think you have some working territory.
There are always things you won't agree on, but it's how you're able to work it out that matters... (easier said than done, I know)
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I've tried the let everything pile up until there are fruit flies but it's just not the way I want to live. And it's really not fair. When we moved from our old place he made a huge production about how cleaning "was the easiest thing in the fucking world" so I've taken him to task about it and still get nothing. Its crap.
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So yeah, I can't give you any advice in this area at all.
I suck.
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