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[red_frog]

I don't do the "I don't do labels" thing, and I am not immune to wondering where I fit into schemes involving labels. But after a few too many posts about this in one community I belong to, I think I've crystalized why the movement toward alternative labels irritates me

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[firinel]

Hmm. I don't really get the specifics about what you're talking about, so I'll mostly be talking out my arse.. I guess I could be seen as one of the "I don't do labels thing" and yet.. there are labels I like, there are labels I actively put on myself with intention, so maybe not. But you mention new labels, so maybe. Heh. (I'm guessing you means things like 'sapiosexual' as opposed to 'bisexual', for an example.) I'm sort of confused why someone would want to be create a group, and then refuse to be recognised by that group, though (your second paragraph). I mean, if identify as, say, queer, and people call me queer, then, why would I then say, well, I'm not really queer..?

You don't think making new subgroups is beneficial at all?

[danger_chick]

Sapiosexual? That's a new one. I'm not a big fan of calling myself bisexual, which is unfortunately because bisexuals get such a bad rep and I was a lesbian for like forever, so I use the word queer.

[firinel]

Yes, I prefer 'queer' too, though for other reasons. It just seems to be an all around good term that's broad enough, but not so broad it's no longer useful.

[hitchhiker]

'sapiosexual' is orthogonal to gender-attraction!

I hear you.

[going_not_gone]

Yeah. For example....I'm a feminist. Not a "feminist, but..."

Anyone who then wants to talk about definitions of feminism, great. If someone hears "manhating hairylegged bulldyke" when they hear the word feminist, they'll probably look at me with my wedding ring and long manicured fingernails and get a little confused, and then we can start re-defining. But I'm not repudiating the word feminist or its long and proud history just because of their preconceptions.

Re: I hear you.

[red_frog]

Exactly. I'm a feminist.

[readherring]

I just checked my label:

90% Preshrunk Cotton, 10% Polyester
Assembled in Mexico
Care on Reverse

So there you have it.

[red_frog]

But do you embrace your cotton-poly blendness, or shuffle and say, "Oh, I'm not a cotton-poly blend; I'm a weave of natural and synthetic fibers."

[curiouslinda]

My label is "Slippery When Wet".

;-)

[smooch]

Slippery when wet

[sagefemme11]

Yum!
My kind of warning/invitation!

Omnisexual was so popular here in NYC for awhile, then the whole beastility thing came into play. Guess that's what sparked the sapiosexual bit. So does that mean only thinking folks attract? Or do idiots and fascists get some ass too?

Re: Slippery when wet

[dreadbaron]

Sure they do, they just don't necessarily wait for their partner's agreement.