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elosoconqueso in redlard

ethnically queer

Jul 01, 2009 00:15

i do a lot of thinking about the relationship between trans people and the queer community, probably because i live in lesbianville, and have traditionally hung out with a lot of queer folks. i don't consider myself queer in the same way, though. i don't even like thinking about identity politics. i'm a guy, and i'm attracted to women, so i should ( Read more... )

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teichan July 1 2009, 06:01:29 UTC

I literally have no idea what you're talking about

elosoconqueso July 1 2009, 06:15:22 UTC

i'm largely stealth, and it's hard for me to explain to people why i appear to be a hetero guy, but know all this shit about drag and dyke drama and queer as folk etc ad nauseum. it gets hard for me to explain it to myself, too. i finally found an analogy that works in my head, and now i can stop navel-gazing about it like a wanky fourteen year old.

is that more clear?

hanaurimusume July 1 2009, 06:48:16 UTC

Aaaaaaaaaactually.... this is the first place I think i might have admitted this but.... I never really cared much about drag too too much. A lot of my friends seemed obsessed with it for a while. It was something that was new to me and I was just like 'ok.' I liked seeing my friends do stuff but I never really felt like I was queer enough to understand or get into stuff really intensely. I hadn't actually been integrated into queer community until I was in my 20s. Honestly a lot of it was kind of weird for me. I didn't understand all the little cliquey things and crap, I was just always 'some kid' before I was 'some queer kid'. Even though I'm queer, I don't really live fabulously. I don't think I have to BE any certain way because I'm queer. All it really means is I get a little sexually curious now and again, but I don't see why if I like dicks or vags sometimes, people assume I have to talk with a lisp, or have short hair, or hand out rainbow fliers or do drag. It's like because you say you're this thing, people expect things ( ... )

elosoconqueso July 1 2009, 18:31:31 UTC

i second this. a lot. and i think i might have given the wrong impression in my post... i've never been a part of "the queer community." i just sort of keep winding up on the fringes of it.

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anonymous July 1 2009, 06:03:19 UTC

uhh... umm. *awkward moment*
Fruit fly? That's what we call'd 'em back in TEXas *ptooie*

medicalfairy July 1 2009, 06:03:31 UTC

lol that was me

headrushfiction July 2 2009, 23:59:56 UTC

i really like that analogy. nice.