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[redmouse]

Well...just bought my wedding dress.

I love it and it makes me feel like a queen (which was actually important in deciding on it over another very pretty choice--like a queen, not a princess. Cute, tulle, etc. is lovely, but I want to look more like a decisive adult than a dreamy Cinderella). The money has really set me back, but it's nice to

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[joyfulgal]

First off, congratulations on getting your dress. At least for me that made things so much more "real"! I can't wait to see it. Do you have pictures? Are you keeping it under wraps until the big day? What's it like?

Secondly, I'm so sorry you're dealing with if not outright dissent, indifference. That must be incredibly painful. I would usually rather someone yell at me for my choices than ignore them, because if they yell at least they cared enough to say something--you know?

Can I ask what the issues your parents/family/friends have with Mike? Is it just that he speaks his mind? I've never met him, so I can't judge, but if he makes you happy, and if you're fully committed to each other and to making marriage work (because believe me there are times it is hard to make marriage work, no matter how much you love each other!), then for what it's worth I fully support it and am thrilled for you

[redmouse]

Thanks, Katie. I do appreciate the advice from a bride! I actually talked to my mom about it today, the reception from others in general in addition to specific family matters, and it helps so much to hear what it was like for her. I feel much better having talked to you both. She also confirmed that my brothers do have some issues with the marriage, but it sounds like it has more to do with me growing up than with any of the particulars. Maybe they're embarrassed to admit it, but I wish they'd just come to me with their concerns so I could assure them that I'm going to be okay

[kudos4u]

My family doesn't like to acknowledge my relationship either and its very difficult sometimes. I am always alone at family functions while everyone else can bring their significant other. We just got back from a trip to the Wisconsin Dells - our first trip together and my mom didn't even bother asking me how the trip was or what I did or if I had fun, she just said, "are you back yet? oh good." Its very frustrating.

[redmouse]

Wow, yeah. That would be so difficult. How long have you been together? (I'm sorry, I'm bad at keeping up; is this still Sal or someone else?) Are things going well, other than the family?

I really encourage you, Brau...I know it's probably difficult for your family too, so I don't want to minimize their feelings, but I do hope they come around and are able to show you both their respect and acceptance.